Brunch day after, do we pay or make guests pay?

I agree with Michelle. If you are inviting and hosting then you need to pay for everything, or do without a brunch. It would be really inappropriate to ask guests to pay.

The only time you wouldn't be obliged to cover costs for a day after brunch would be a situation like an included hotel breakfast. In that case, you wouldn't "invite" so much as tell people where you'll be the next day and what time if they want to meet up.

Maybe you can encourage your partner to have a casual afterparty at the hotel instead. Guests (and you) can change into less confining wear, relax, and catch up on a more intimate level. Someone orders late night snacks. At some point, planners hit a wall in planning and it sounds like your partner doesn't want anymore of that. But, if you do something formal for brunch, the hosts pay it all.

IF you're inviting people you pay. It's super rude to invite people and then leave them with a bill. Why do you want a brunch so bad if your FI is really against it?

If you can't afford to pay, don't invite everyone to brunch. There's literally no point. We were fortunate that we stayed at an all-inclusive resort with our guests, so we were all able to meet up the next morning to have a breakfast that was included with our stay. You're already paying for a wedding and spending all night with these guests, there is no reason to meet up with everyone all over again after spending an entire night together. Consider maybe just brunch the next morning with the immediate families of you and your spouse if you can afford that? But sounds like your future spouse just wants to be able to relax and not worry about yet another event, so I would take that into consideration and ask yourself why you're pushing for this.

This is what we're doing. We'll let guests know what time we're having complimentary hotel breakfast and to join us if they want. Much cheaper than a hosted brunch!

I have never understood the Day After Brunch.

IMHO, I would rather spend the day with my Husband, just the 2 of us relaxing and spending our first full day together as a married couple. That would be our first step into our new journey of happy memories. We would have spent all night the night before with our guest and we will have plenty of other special times to get together with the guest at future events. So what I am trying to say is, just enjoy you and your husband try not to push him into something he doesn't want to do because that's only gonna let him know that he's gonna be at battle with you with anything that he isn't comfortable doing. I will have to agree with him on this one. I wouldn't want to have to plan and pay for another event the next day and having to fork over a bunch of unnecessary money that can be put towards something that you both can agree on, If you want to do a day after brunch, why not do a romantic day after brunch just for the 2 of you ? Or maybe a romantic picnic in a park for lunch. Less costly that way. and my vision of a romantic picnic in the park would be a secret. I would do a basket with maybe club sandwiches, chocolate cover strawberries for dessert or maybe his favorite dessert, bottle of wine or which ever choice of beverage, maybe write a short love note telling him why you love him, etc..... and maybe plan a little site seeing after lunch or some kind of less expensive or no cost activity for you 2 to enjoy your first day of being married.

Sorry for the long post.