Brother asked if his gf could be a bridesmaid

Sorry, but we've already decided on our BP. Of course we'd be delighted for her to still come as a guest!

"Sorry, we've decided our bridal party and would like to keep things on the smaller side. Of course, she's more than welcome to attend as a guest. We'd be delighted to have her!"

And if he says something about being uncomfortable walking with another women, kindly remind him that it's a minute of his life and that he will be seated with his girlfriend at the reception.

Can you give her another role? Let him know you would like for her to do something else as you already have your party picked out and you're keeping it small.

WTF? Who does this? I swear people act like it's an opportunity to meet the Pope or something.

I would say exactly what LG said, but my nosey ass wants to know why.

Just say no. Why is this a thing?

The answer is 'no. We have kept our BP small and it's people we really feel the closest to."

And of course, NO is a complete sentence....

No. Just, no.

@Jay has a much more polite response than I would be able to give

@MrsSkiToBe, it's easier for me to word things nicely when it isn't my own siblings! Thankfully, out of the five of them, there's only one that would try that, and they know before I even reply they're going to get shut down real fast.

He already knows she is invited to the wedding. I'm guessing maybe he thinks she will feel awkward being on her own? It's just so awkward that he would ask that. Ugh.

My sister asked me if she could be a bridesmaid. Begged me. I wasn't planning on asking her but then felt obligated to avoid family drama. I gave in to her begging and I wish I hadn't. Now I can't take it back.

Stand your ground so you don't end up in my situation.

@Kristen as long as they're seated together at the reception, it'll be okay.

Jamie S. What other roles are there? Honestly I feel like I don't know enough about wedding planning to know or come up with other roles.

I don't think you need to give her a role. She'll live. I'm sure she will be able to mingle during cocktail hour, since they've been dating for awhile I'm assuming she knows your family? And then they'll be together for the rest of the reception.

What celia said

This is so rediculous...why would he even ask that. I swear people just don't understand how much though and planning and money goes into a wedding. Stay firm and tell him no, explain that you already have your 4 bridesmaids and you are keeping the wedding party smaller.

She doesn't need a role, she needs to be a grownup.

That's very forward of him... definite no because no one should ever ASK to be a BM. My sister and I are super close so my response to her would just be -_- and she'd get the point LOL. I also don't think you should feel obligated to give her another role either. "Sorry, already have the wedding party picked out" should suffice. Short and sweet.

I have a role for her: GUEST.

@Kristen P. Maybe she could do a reading, pass out programs, stand by the sign in table...I agree that I think it's stupid that she had to get him to ask. That should've been her answer right there....

Say no that you are keeping the bridal party small and you have close friends that you would like to be your bridesmaids. Maybe ask her to hand out programs or do another role in the wedding