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Beginner June 2020

Brother as groomsman

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Angela, on January 19, 2020 at 11:53 PM

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So long story short me and my brother don't see eye to eye on alot of things but I've always wanted him in my wedding dreamt with him in it. But 2 things my fiance and him are not close at all and my brother didn't ask him to be in his wedding last year or to his bachelor party either. So my fiance...

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Devoted October 2020
Crystal · on January 21, 2020 at 10:22 AM
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No, I’m bitter now. We weren’t close just like the first poster mentioned and I wasn’t included in his wedding. I didn’t sweat it at the time (even with that comment I got) until when I told the family what day I was getting married and was told he wasn’t coming.
I think it would be terrible if she made and effort to include him and he didn’t show up, either for the wedding or for the task requested. (It looks like he might be an usher). The fact the fiancé doesn’t consider him close is a flag for me. He’s looking at the guy in the eyes of an outsider not in the eyes of a sister who wants to feel connected to her brother.
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Dedicated February 2021
Nakesha · on January 21, 2020 at 7:47 PM
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The thing is, though, if he declines or doesn't show up, smaller roles are usually easier to fill last-minute than a groomsman.
I feel like if either of you had a heart-to-heart with your brothers they would at least be there. You may even see that the reason they didn't include you wasn't a decision they came to alone.
Now, my sister, on the other hand, won't be part of my wedding but two of my sisters-in-law (FH's sisters) will be bridesmaids the other two will be participating in other ways. My sister knows exactly what she did and how to get ahold of me. We're not even on speaking terms. She chose this path. I hope you're situation isn't similar.
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