Bridezilla Unleashed

I feel you. These are huge issues that deserve some freak out. I think we all promise ourselves we won't go bridezilla but when too many people step on the nerves I think it's time to just go for it. My line for dumb arguments are "I'm the bride and it's what i want". I don't have to yell but it gets the point across that I won't waste time arguing.

I feel your pain. My shower was this past weekend and I had multiple people bring up the whole no kids thing. I had people tell me that one of FH's cousins (she couldn't come to my shower so she wasn't there herself) "can't find anyone to watch her daughter so she probably can't come to the wedding..." in a tone that clearly was trying to get me to just say ok fine she can bring her. I just shook my head and said "Oh, really? That's too bad." I also had some of my cousins asking my mom if they "really can't bring their kids" or "why wasn't their kid on the invite" or "is it REALLY no kids?" All of which she shot down for me hahaha. It's super annoying and I hate how people can make you feel like the bad guy just because you're planning the kind of wedding that makes you happy. I've learned A LOT about people during the wedding planning process, mostly how selfish people truly are.

Breathe!!! Nothing actually seems too horrible that you mentioned. It’s fixable and it will be fine. Sure, it sucks to have to tell people that their kids can’t attend. But, as you mentioned, it wasn’t listed on the invitation. So luckily it’s only two families that you’re reaching out to.

Man, I feel all of this! Do you have a website? Maybe add a no kid note to it?.. I'm months away from our day but I know (can imagine) how frustrating it is! I can't understand why folks don't get it

If it was me, I'd say the venue has a strict no minors policy. Is there a lake or pool nearby? "Sorry, the venue has a strict liability policy that says no minors. They've got a lake with no lifeguard on duty. " I am all about the little white lie to help you get through this experience without causing too much upset. Hell, the 17 year old can babysit the other kids, right? You can find a sitter if you wanted to find a sitter. I am not buying that excuse. I hope everything works out for the best and you don't have to deal with anymore bridezilla moments! You're almost there, you can do it!

I truly understand how you feel. We, unfortunately, will be having a few kids at our wedding because we did the SAME THING and even said we have reserved this amount of seats in your honor. The people with kids will not be sitting in the mix of the wedding, they are all strategically placed in the back. I was able to go and fix the uninvited kids situation, for the most part, I simply thanked the person for RSVP'ing but explained that we could only accommodate them and not their children. Also, let them know if they could no longer attend, we were perfectly okay with that. It went well. The bridal party we sucked it up and let them bring kids since many of them obligated their time to us for our special day.

The suit issue happens ALL the time. My FH was apart of a wedding two years ago and the suit he was giving was the size of 2 years old. They were able to quickly ship out a new one by the next morning.

Deep breaths!! The suit issue is totally fixable. This is why you try on when you pick them up! As far as the kid issue goes - You don't have to lie, just say "I'm sorry we cannot accommodate children." There is nothing rude or against etiquette in excluding children. Everything will come together beautifully, you will see!!

We decided to put "Adult Only Affair" on our RSVP cards...because like you, I don't want to have to be that person, and I definitely will if I need. It is so frustrating trying to plan a wedding, you really see how little etiquette there is in the world.

I literally had friends...FRIENDS asking me if they had to RSVP.

I definitely am going to put "Adults Only Affair" on my invitation now! We are doing online RSVP and I plan to also have that on my wedding website. I have told numerous family and friends with small children, especially those who live out of state so they had an early heads up, that it would be adults only and to see if family back home could take the little ones for the weekend so mom and dad can have an enjoyable time alone. My facility actually does have a policy stating that more than "x" number of children require a devoted chaperone or sitter. I am not willing to provide that.

I can't imagine what I will deal with. Best of luck.

This isn’t funny but I laughed when I read your “who by the way” because it sounds like something I would say when I’m on a wedding rant. 🤣 I hope all of this gets sorted out for you! Try to stay calm and relaxed so you can enjoy your day.

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You seem like a much better person than me, personally.... I can't tell myself I'm not going to go bridezilla because I know my family and myself too well!!

Did you go to Men's Warehouse for the suits? LMAO!

You can probably tell your GM that it is too late to make any last minute changes to the guest list; the seating arrangements have already been made and the guest list submitted to the caterer.

To your guests with the toddler, you can suggest that they put up an ad on Facebook or something. If they're staying in a hotel, suggest that they call the hotel to see if they have a sitter on staff or one that they can recommend.

We are having two sitters at my wedding, but that is because we will have two 2 year olds and a newborn there. In addition, we have an 8 year old FG, a 5 year old RB and we've just added a 4 year old FG, who may like to have a quiet place to unwind. Our sitters are people that we know. One is my SIL's mother who will be in charge of the baby. The other is a young woman who babysat the 8 year old during my sister's wedding when she was a toddler.

This is coming me a great idea, what if on the RSVP cards we only put the two names invited with check marks? No black space or empty plus one...and if there is an unkown plus one, then only one blank space for them to write in the person's name.

Seriously, would that not eliminate people writing in "plus 4"

Oh wow!!!! Hang in there, I feel like the last 2 weeks before the wedding bridezilla just shows up! I’m about 85 days away and have so far handled issues calmly but from hearing from other brides, I think I’m just too far out. IMO though, it’s your day and people need to respect how you have planned it to go!

Honey, freak out, if things are going wrong you have the all clear to freak out... Just remember to say sorry and hug all of them and whisper in their ears what would happen if they dont go back in line...not your dad tho! lol

Everything is going to be fine! you go this!

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The problem is, some people feel that is ok to bring anyone even if in the invites it says 1 or 2 names. Some feel entitled and some just dont care... So honestly im gonna be extra and write a details cards to send to some of the people i know that might screw me over cause i dont care lol

#1. I have stipulations for kids if you are a part of the wedding.#2. Or if your parents are in the wedding party. #3.Or if you live O.T .(Kids are invited) And I eliminated # attending on my RSVP cards.I will address the invite to the person /people we want to attend our wedding, This should eliminate the need for guest to add people who were not clearly invited.

I had a few last minute no shows because of babysitting issues. My nephew bought his 1 year old daughter even though i told him not to. But everything worked out in spite of all this.

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Yes we do but I feel like with our wedding being this Saturday, people aren't going to be getting on the website at this point and wouldn't see it.