Bridezilla or Organized?

View Quoted Comment Then she told my fiancé inwas crazy am tried to make her buy a navy dress. (He knew the whole story and called her out) I suggested a navy dress cause she could not find a dress. My BM are in cobalt so blues or grays was what I wanted.

View Quoted Comment Hahaha 😆 Oh yes I have, unfortunately. There was a whole post here about a bride who asked her BM to dye her hair “appropriate” color, so that she “looks better in her photos”. The bride apparently doesn’t want a BM with “inappropriate” hair color to ruin her wedding photos that she will have to look at for the rest of her life 😳 So yeah... that’s why I used that as an example.

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Hmmmmm that is valid! Those that are getting married because they want a wedding, not their FH and the ability to have a wonderful ceremony and day to celebrate that.

I think those people are either called Bridezillas or Selfish Jerks Who Only Care About Themselves and the Groom Should Run

Bridezillas is shorter though

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Wow... Ya she sounds like a piece of work. Maybe just jealous? That doesn't seem reasonable

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Oh my God!!! Even if the girls hair was pink, if that is her personality and you knew she would have pink hair and it was your wedding day... Then decide whether or not you are okay with it before asking. Not freaking making her change. You should want people up there they way they are!

View Quoted Comment Ma she just is childish. She is always whinny on FB that no one wants to hang with her. But she will text the day she wants to hang out. My fiancé told her she has to work with other people’s schedules she said but I have more and more to do every day. He said yes that’s called adulting.

View Quoted Comment Yep totally agree. That’s why I say respectful & rational behavior & how you deal with situations that don’t go your way is so important. And that’s why we have the term bridezilla lol.

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Hahaha I like that you are at least understanding that is what she is like and are not taking it personally!

There's difference between having your ducks in a row and throwing a massive meltdown over the exact shade of lilac you want for the table runners.

View Quoted Comment Yep there’s definitely things that a bride can and should be able to get upset about without being labeled a bridezilla!

I think TLC has morphed the word to describe every bride! When in reality like you said, this is probably the biggest party that will ever be thrown in an individual's (couples) life. So having a little meltdown when something goes awry is excusable. I think a bridezilla is someone who demands vs. makes compromises for those she cares for. In all reality all these little details are going to pale in comparison to the decision to spend your life with someone.

I agree with your description of a bridezilla. It's fine to want the wedding to be smooth and beautiful, but a bridezilla, to me, is someone who CONSTANTLY has to have things be perfect.

View Quoted Comment In a few years we could probably call them divorced ;-) But in all seriousness, I wouldn't wish that on anyone! Hopefully even the bridezillas can make it work.

There are definitely bridezillas. My older sister as much as I love her was one and her friends during her bachelorette party talked about her a lot. She was the typical you were in her wedding so you should be there wrapping ribbon around the bubbles and stuffing invites etc.

I on the other hand have been told I am totally laid back almost too much, but I also know what I want in a sense and I have a lot of time to test things out and make sure that I do like the ideas etc.

Oh i've had family members roll their eyes at me when I talk about the timeline or about table formation, i'm sure they all think i'm crazy. The response I get the most from people is "it'll work out don't worry!" But I always think..."yeah it'll work out because I planned everything with backup plans in case of inclement weather or other issues" My worst fear is that something will go wrong and i'll be sitting in the makeup chair not knowing how to fix it.

So I tend to agree that people throw that word around liberally. It is all on you. There are a lot of moving parts to consider. There are time crunches the day of that if you don't have certain vendors out by a certain time you're paying more money. It's one huge stress ball!

But i've had other family members who got married and snapped and I think that's when you really become a "Bridezilla"

Bridezillas are real. Women throwing fits because guests or attendants getting pregnant and not able to attend or "do enough" for them. Getting upset because their MOH isn't throwing them a bachelorette shower. Getting mad when people can't attend your Wednesday night wedding, etc. Lots of small things. My definition of a bridezilla is someone who gets way too upset over small things like these. Your venue burns down a month before your wedding? Yes, that's a reason to be upset, not because Aunt Linda can't afford your destination wedding.

I always thought Bridezilla only applied to mean-spirited brides. Its one thing to be anxious and freak out about planning, its another to lash out or become unpleasant to be around.

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I think that that's a good example of people being their own zillas and then blaming an exasperated bride on being the one who is being a "bridezilla." It's so gendered too, a groom who was on top of it and stood his ground would be considered confident. A guy would only be labeled a "zilla" for truly inappropriate behavior.

I think it’s reasonable for brides to want things exact. As others have said, it’s a lot of money and you’re paying professionals for their services. It’s unreasonable to have tantrums or be nit picky to an extreme or expectations outside the normal for other people/friends/family. But reasonable bridal party or family requests, trying to get ahold of vendors (I have a few that I’m having to be a little direct with or there would be weeks between conversations - and our wedding is a month away and I’m trying to finalize and pay) are all fine in my book.

I’ve been accused of being a bridezilla on two occasions which I thought was unfair. Once for what I had set our wedding budget as by my mom - for which I said if they want to contribute then at the wedding they can gift us but I don’t want drama with having to run decisions by them. The second for being upset (again by my mom) when my MOH said she probably wasn’t coming (long story but poor planning on her part) then my brother said he can’t come followed by my aunt - she said I wasn’t being understanding or fair to them and their situations and having a stateside destination wedding I brought it upon myself and to expect people not to show up. Which all my guests had a 1 year notice. I didn’t make a huge deal about it simply stated I was disappointed in three of the people I absolutely wanted and expected at our wedding then she said I was being a bridezilla demanding things from other people.

I agree with PP's. If the bride is unreasonable or just not accepting reasoning then shes a bridezilla. But having and ideal vision and being upset (not tantrum) if it doesn't go that way is not a bridezilla.