Bridezilla or Organized?

I think bridezilla should only be used for someone being completely unreasonable. But detail oriented is fine. It's a Lot of money, if something isn't perfect and you're signing the check I say it's well within reason to freak out.

View Quoted Comment I agree! There are some things that are completely unreasonable but a bit of organization is not cra cra

I agree with you! There is nothing wrong with wanting your day to run smoothly, afterall, it is a very expensive event that has taken a many months of planning, and anyone in that position would want things to go well.

I am sure the grooms women says I am one. (After letting her pick her dress in any shade of blue gray or silver she wanted) the other grooms lady got a dress to match. Then she wanted to change it. We said it has to be same shade you picked.
Anyway I think bridezilla should be for the brides that expect everyone to drop everything and help with wedding. Who gets BM dresses out of the girls price range. Or demands they get things they can’t afford.

I think that bridezilla is only when someone is super unreasonable & WAY over the top. I’m extremely organized, but the farthest thing from a bridezilla - I’m a perfectionist & I expect a lot from myself, but I’m super chill w/ others.

I’m sure people think I’m a bridezilla, but I’m just organized. I’m throwing a very expensive party with many different vendors involved, and understand that there is an order and timeline in which things need to be planned. We couldn't order invites without knowing what food options we were having, and we couldn’t pick the food options without a tasting... so no FMIL, we couldn’t wait until the end of July when it was convenient for you to attend a tasting for our mid-September wedding. 🙄

I also don’t think it’s too much to ask for vendors to be able to pencil in your final meetings (example: I would love to know now that I’ll need to meet with the DJ on Sept 9th to go over details so I don’t schedule the florist or a fitting for that day)

I agree with PP in that bridezillas are those thatre unreasonable or unopen to anything else

To me a bridezilla is about being thoughtless of others sometimes including FS. They don't give a d@mn how they get what they want when they want it. Taking "it's my day" to mean "this is all about me". So sorry but other people will be there too! Don't forget it takes two to get married!

There’s definitely a normal degree of wanting everything to go well, vs when girls are like screaming over centerpieces and cutting off their friends because they didn’t devote enough time and money into being a bridesmaid lol.

Bridezillas are for sure a thing. BUT I also think the term is thrown around in kind of a derogatory way and makes people take you less seriously. Like honestly to me it feels like a similar thing as when a woman gets upset about something and then someone responds with “oh she must be PMSing” or something 🙄 like yes, that’s a thing, but don’t invalidate my emotions with it. Same as being a “bridezilla”...... yes it’s a thing, but don’t invalidate my reasonable upset by just throwing around that term!

It sounds like there are quite a few other people who are organized as heck! I think the only freak out I had was for 5 minutes when our dog ate our personalize wedding topper we couldn't replace (it came from Venezuela and looked exactly like us as StarWars characters) but after a mini freak out, we solved the problem.

I will say I'm like... crazy organized ... :/ I have a detailed schedule that is CRAZY long so no one has to ask me a thing when the day comes because everyone knows exactly what was going on in my head

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Absolutely agree!!! Cutting out friendships or throwing a tantrum is not okay... at all! It does seem like now days the same for just "bride" is "bridezilla" ... like you said! A bad day for a woman now days is "PMSing" lol No. I could just have a bad day! lol

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Absolutely could see that! Not factoring in the opinions, comfort or experience of the FH or the guests and just focusing on their wants is for sure a bridezilla moment

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I'm the same way!!! I try to plan for the worst and hope for the best! BUT if it doesn't happen that way, that's cool. We tried!

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I could see why you would be annoyed that the FMIL would want you to wait and you couldn't. Sorry, girl! If you aren't here when it needs to be done, you aren't here! I think it just sounds like you too are an organized bride! I have several vendors as well (two videographers, one photographer, one makeup artist, one day of coordinator, the wedding on site coordinator, a florist, and a DJ) so I have made a timeline that include all of them, photos of where and what things are set up, and timelines for all other guests. It's just part of it! Need to stay on top unless you want to answer **** questions on the day!

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Changing the dress last minute is absolutely fine if you keep within the colors. I do not think that is unreasonable at all!!! Unless you are doing "shades of a color" and everyone has a slightly different color. Otherwise, it needs to be the same.

Bridezilla describes a bride with a low EQ (emotional intelligence). You can be super organized & particular, and that’s all fine, but it’s the way you react to challenging situations when things are not going your way. Are you throwing a tantrum like a 5-year old & losing control of your own emotions? Or are you focused on looking for solutions, while staying objective & rational? That’s the difference.
I’m a super organized bride with a strong vision & opinions. I will likely get things to be the way I want them. But I do it all in a calm, rational & objective manner. I can be firm & not budge on what I want, but I will always treat everybody involved with respect. I would never yell at anybody, or burst out crying over a centerpiece lol, or say mean, spiteful things, or ask BM to change color of their hair to suit my taste 🤦🏻‍♀️ And I will always ask my FH about what he wants or thinks, because it’s his day too.
So you can have a same goal, but how you go about accomplishing it is what makes the difference between bridezilla & just organized bride with strong opinions.

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WAIT WAIT WAIT! I agree with everything but have you literally seen someone on here or known someone that has asked a bridesmaid to change their hair color?!?!?!? Are you kidding me?!

View Quoted Comment No she got to pick the shade she wanted. She was having a hard time getting a dress in her size. The other grooms women picked a dress to match her. Then the first grooms women wanted a dress that was not the same shade at all. She tried to say it was. That was the difference.

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Hahahahahahahahahaha yaaaaaa not even close lol

I think of bridezillas as the ones doing it all for the wrong reasons. The ones just putting on a show. They care more about what things look like than the actual marriage. Is there a term for that? Or do we just lump them in as bridezillas?