Bridezilla Moment..anyone else?

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I agree with Kiley, it will be hard because she has been a pest about many things, but apologizing is the right thing to do since you went off on her.

For the record, I do think she was poking at you though!

I feel like all the bridezilla moments ive had became contained because I'd just rant about it to my friends instead of unleashing it on the person directly aha. But you're definitely not alone.

She may have instigated the earrings thing but you took it to an entire new level. I think the rest of it was past being bridezilla and the two of you need to sit down and have lunch and figure out where you are with things outside of anything wedding related.

Now my bridezilla moment...I told my mom I was wearing sequin converse for the wedding and everyone standing up would be wearing them. She took this as a free for all to wear whatever shoes you want. When we met up for lunch one day she pointed at her shoes and said I'm wearing these to the wedding. She was SUPER excited because they had pink in them. I love pink but just cause they are pink doesn't mean I like them. They were legit beach tennis shoes that were navy with pink bows on them. They were hideous. I knew what she was going to wear...brown pants with an ivory top and cranberry cardigan. Even not at a wedding those shoes would look really stupid with that outfit. I told her it was a hard no on her wearing those shoes. She said I was mean because I wasn't wearing "fancy" shoes so that means she didn't have to. Picture something like the shoes below but navy with pink bows printed everywhere

These are the shoes that I wore. Ivory sequin converse. They matched my dress and were fancier than normal tennis shoes.

While it’s really not your concern whether your bridesmaids son has his ears pierced or not, I think that by ignoring her post you were being the adult. But it honestly sounds like she was deliberately trying to goad you into a reaction. I understand where you are coming from because it seems like there has been a lot of build up to this point. You should reach out to your cousin and apologize but also let her know that you love her, but be honest about the antics that have set you off, without using it as an excuse. We all have those days! It will be ok!

I think most brides have some sort of bridezilla moment. I was lucky in that mine (or at least my first one) was in email to my planner over wall draperies of all things.

To move forward, I would personally sit down with your mom and explain that you cant have your cousin causing more arguements. Tell her you love her and dont want the wedding stress and your cousin's meddling to cause more issues between the two of you. Then ask her what she thinks you should do concerning your cousin. Put in this tone, she might be a better help to you than any of us can as she will uniquely understand your family dynamic.

When I read this I was expecting some kind of crazy bridezilla story. I don't think you were wrong for any of this, I think your cousin was actually trying to provoke you. It sounds to me that she got what she deserved. When it gets closer to your wedding stand your ground, and have what you want for your wedding!

I can't be a bridezilla, my FH is a groomzilla with everything. Whenever I want to plan something he wants it done yesterday. I'm trying to do so many DIY projects to save us money, but I haven't really made anything yet. Groomzilla always wants me to change my idea to make it his way.

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Yeah when I told my FH what happened, he was like well you have been thinking this for a long time and it was like word throw up once it came out. I'm also somewhat of people pleaser so I usually just let a lot of things go.

Oh my gosh! Sounds like you have your hands full. My groom just wants me to be happy, but I know he is getting tired of the dynamic that is going on.

I dunno, after that comment she made, i would've gone off on her too. Like that was unnecessary and rude

Although yes that was a bit of a bridezilla moment, it sounds like she was definitely trying to goad you into it. The fact that she felt it was reasonable to message you and say "hes wearing them too bad for you" without you having said anything to her about it was absolutely ridiculous.

I would definitely apologize for how you treated her. I agree with PP's that it seemed like she was trying to get a rise out of you. However, it's literally none of your business what her son is wearing in his ears - you don't get to voice an opinion about that period. It was super out of line. Also, it's not the BM's job to make your stuff easier. You plan your own wedding. Also, i know lots of ppl love Azazie, but I can see hwere she's coming from about that. It's annoying to have to pay to try on dresses, and it' so hard to know whats going to look right without trying on. That said, as a BM, just get the dress your told.

The rest of it is just personal stuff - i would apologize for how you reacted for sure.

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Although I see where you are coming from. I never said anything about the stupid earrings until she said something. I was going to let it go, because hey kids go through phases he might not even have pierced ears a year from now. To be honest I wasn't a fan of Azazie either until I realized I didn't like any of the colors around here or styles; plus the amount of money spent on the try on program would be the same for having a girl's day driving + lunch. I will be apologizing for the earring thing, the rest I'm not going to because she needs a wake up call.

I had an issue with my maid of honor over the fact that I wanted everyone to wear a different color of the same style dress. While the color discussion was happening, I guess she fell asleep and was upset that when she had woken up from her nap, everyone had already picked their color (which happened to fall in the exact order of the color palette I had posted, so I really think they were just picking the color based on knowing what order they were in) and tried to make every excuse about hating what she was left with. Unfortunately in situations like this, someone is going to draw the short straw and it happened to be her. I had to pull the "I don't want to have to be a Bridezilla, but if the shoe fits..."

I caught myself getting snooty with the wedding dress consultant. We were about 15 dresses in and I had strictly said I do not want any part of my back exposed. I could tell she was getting frustrated with me (she was also the shop owner) while remaining professional and gracious. She pulled out yet another dress that had part of the back exposed while bringing me a full length mirror to hold so that I may see how the back looks as she proceeds to tell me how nice of a back I have and why I won’t show it. I wanted to roll my eyes back and I was so overwhelmed with emotion (not in a good way) that I had a moment and snapped and said “no. No thanks” and I gave the mirror back and I ran for the dressing room

It's a very stressful time and she shouldn't be goading you, especially as a bridesmaid! She is there for support not for additional stress.

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I agree, she was provoking a confrontation. Like who sends a message like that.

OP, Take a few days for deep breaths and let it go, hopefully she will too

OMG! I had one the other day. One of the members of the bridal party did not like the color of that I had picked for the wedding and was having an issue with the attire. I had a quick bridezilla moment and text yelled for a minute then instantly felt bad! It happens to all of us!

View Quoted Comment Yeah I still feel a little bad even after apologizing but oh well.

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But this is not on you to yell at her about. Is it frustrating yes, but it is up to your family to say something to her and to stop giving her money.

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But I am her family as well. She is taking advantage of my parents. I don't want them to be taken advantage of. So I will stand up for myself and my parents whenever I see fit. This is a time where I see that it fits. I have already told my dad and mom my concerns while my dad sees it, my mom doesn't.