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Kelsey
VIP September 2020

Bridezilla Moment..anyone else?

Kelsey, on September 3, 2019 at 3:47 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 39

I had a major bridezilla moment today, I am not proud of myself for it at all; actually I am embarrassed it happened at all. So my cousin who is also a bridesmaid in the wedding has not been making my wedding planning easier by any means. When she found out we were ordering dresses online from Azazie she made a huge deal out of this; told my mom that if we go through David's alterations are free. That's not true about David's. After many arguments with my mom and even going to David's because my mom didn't believe me. I sent my cousin the information for Azazie and got another argument back. I finally straight up asked her if she wanted to be part of the wedding or just a guest. She said part of the wedding, she just has a lot going on. Ok, not a big deal. Let it go and told her there is no rush at all for ordering her dress whenever she gets around to it in the next 9 months. Thought we were good.

Went on Facebook last night to see that she let her son (ring bearer in the wedding) get his ears pierced. I personally am not a fan of this. Just a personal preference, but whatever. She messaged me saying "Oh too bad you don't like it when boys have pierced ears because he will be wearing them for your wedding." I was like what the heck! I didn't say anything, like the post, nothing. So I called her and went off on her. I told her I am sick of her being a free loader on my parents and my uncle (her dad). To get a full time job because she is fully capable of getting off her a**. And if she thinks her son is going to wear earrings to my wedding she is sadly mistaken. She started screaming at me about how I don't care about anyone else but myself. I realize I was being such a bridezilla about the earrings, and am so disappointed with myself right now. I have been doing good, I have a temper and I try hard to control it. But I feel I was somewhat pushed. I can't make excuses for what I said, but I feel awful right now. Please tell me I'm not the only one to have a bridezilla moment?

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Latest activity by Kelsey, on September 6, 2019 at 11:09 AM
  • Amber
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    While I definitely agree you had a bridezilla moment (happens to the best of usSmiley winking ), she really sounded like she was TRYING to set you off in my opinion. I'm sorry you're having such a stressful time, I hope things get easier for you!

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  • Kelsey
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    Thanks! I'm just so disappointed in myself right now.

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  • Emily
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    Everyone goes through a Bridezilla moment. It's good you recognize that is what happened and you feel bad about it. I do agree based off what you have shared you were provoked. From here I would just take a step back and reevaluate things. Are earrings something you are willing to go to war over? Is there a way you can make your cousin understand the importance of this day to you? Those are just some things I would think about. And remember at the end of the day you will be married to your best friend and these issues may not even matter anymore. Good luck!

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  • Amber
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    That's understandable. I would just give yourself some time to cool down and then talk it over with her, apologize if you feel right doing so. Otherwise just acknowledge that you may have flipped your lid and that you're in a stressful situation and maybe that it felt like she was trying to push your buttons. Hopefully she'll be adult enough about it to understand and forgive/forget. Smiley smile

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    She definitely went out of her way to instigate you.
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  • Kelsey
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    Oh my gosh no earrings are not something to go to war over. I don't even want to. I honestly think it's everything else that she has said and done that caused that reaction. I don't care if her son wears earrings like at all now looking back. I really wish she would understand but I think she is just too wrapped up in her own crap to even think about anyone else.

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  • Kelsey
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    I probably will apologize to her about the earring comment. Just need some time to cool off.

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  • Emily
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    I have 4 sisters and understand this frustration. Take some time to cool down and figure out where your head space is at and how you want to proceed with her being in the wedding. Honestly if she keeps picking these fights and stressing you out I would personally ask her to step up or step down. This is suppose to be an enjoyable journey for you and FH not a stressful one.

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  • Kiley
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    I don't think you need to apologize for the earring comment. That will only come across as her son can wear the earrings. If you apologize, apologize for "snapping" and the comments you made about freeloading.. even if you feel it's true.. it wasn't the time to call her out on it when you were really upset about her message regarding earrings.

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  • Kelsey
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    But the earrings are really not the issue, it's like everything else. Finding out how she is taking money from everyone in my family when she is capable of working. I have a huge problem with that. So I will not apologize for the freeloader comment at all because that is the truth. Maybe it was bad timing yes.

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    I have had many bridezilla moments. Like part of it is just being so stressed then you just snap.
    I will be completely honest. I don’t know that I would apologize. She seemed to be poking until she gets a reaction and she is trying to make Things be the way she wants them (wanting dresses from David’s bridal and her son wearing earrings in your wedding. Especially when it would be fine to take them out for a few hours). At this point since she’s already instigated two fights (to the point you had to take your own mother to David’s bridal to get her to believe her own daughter/the bride. When that shouldn’t matter anyways you like a dress from X place. Then go to X.) I would just say hey I think I’m the best interest of our relationship I think you need to just attend as a guest..
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  • Alejandra
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    We'll all have them at some point or another, unfortunately. I get very anxious about things so I can understand where you're coming from. But like someone else said...she sounds like she's trying to piss you off? How old is her son that he's a ring bearer and also got his ears pierced? Don't blame yourself - she sounds like a nasty piece of work.

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    Hmm not any actual bridezilla moments but I have noticed I’ve been getting kind of snippy. I’m a pretty patient person so I’m surprised how little tolerance I have for BS right now. It’s just little stuff that doesn’t even matter but it makes me mad and so over it anyway.
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    He is going to be 10 in January. He is a little older than most ring bearers and I get that. I have awful anxiety some days too so she is just not helping the matter at all.

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    At this point I don't care about the earrings. He can wear them, just sick of being poked at like this.

    My mom and I have been arguing constantly about the wedding because of my cousin. She inserts herself where she doesn't belong. Not that it matters but I left David's bridal in tears because of fighting with my mom, It's not all my cousin's fault but it is partly.

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    Well it sounds like taking her out of the wedding party and keeping her involvement with the wedding to a minimum might be the best way for you to go. It might not go over so well at first
    but in the long run it should save you heartache, fights, headache and being made to feel like this.
    i hope this helps😊
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    Bridesmaids are supose to make the experience easier and more fun for the bride, not to stress them out. I would tell her that she no longer gets to be a bridesmaid and/or stop including her in any of the planning. I'm sorry you're going through this.
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  • Kelsey
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    Thanks. Hopefully this next year goes smoothly
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    Thanks for the advice!
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    I took my mom to see the venue and she fell in love. The very next day she calls me and starts telling me all the rules for a elegent wedding. Dissing my bridesmaids dress choices. Telling me my wedding would be ghetto and we'd look like clowns. I was hurt but I stayed firm with her and said I'm doing what I want to. She got upset and hung up on me. She called back I had my phone off so she left a message, heck I erased it before listening. I'm hurt but I knew it was going to happen as our tastes are totally different. But she is not used to me standing up to her and I did. I actually feel good about it.
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