Bridesmaid/sister issue

I am just reading this now. What did you end up doing? I’m curious.

Personally I would let her go.

She should not be involved. She does not respect you or your union. She has made it clear since the very beginning (literally the engagement) that she does not support your relationship.

People treat us how we allow ourselves to be treated, that is a misfortunate lesson that we all have to learn in life.

You are not being treated like a sister you are being treated like the enemy.

Your wedding is supposed to be a celebration of your love with the people that you love. And the bridal party is supposed to be filled with people that you love that also support your marriage.

At the end of the day it is your wedding and your family but ask yourself these questions:

1. Will I enjoy having this person around me while I am getting married?

2. Will I enjoy looking at them standing next to me on a very important day?

3. Are family politics outweighing my personal sanity?

Also, just reading this now. I really hope everything turned out the right way!

I'm also just reading this now...what a horrible situation! Will you be sharing an update on how everything turned out? Hope your day was beautiful!!!

Like others, just now reading this and wondering how things turned out. I hope you'll let us know.

View Quoted Comment Hi everyone ! Sorry for this being so late I had deleted the app after the wedding !


So she was kicked out/decided to leave the party and continued to text me throughout the week saying stuff like it’s the worst mistake of my life that I’m not allowing her back in the wedding and a whole bunch of stuff about suing me. I kept telling her that her being rude and mean to me isn’t a way to be part of my big day. Meanwhile my now husbands cousin stepped in and got a dress that matched ours perfect. Come Thursday she text me and says she’s sorry for saying mean things and being rude to which I told her I was sincerely appreciative of her apology... she replies with mhm. I ignored it, I know deep down her apology never are from the heart. So throughout the day I asked her if she planned on coming to the wedding. She then says yes but I’m being forced to and I don’t even want to be here... I go then don’t come , if you truly don’t want to come then please don’t be unhappy. She goes on and was like well everyone is going to complain at me if I don’t ( no one would complain at her ). She then starts getting mad since I never apologized to her and that she already spent 90$ on another dress ( why would she buy a 90$ dress for a barn wedding is beyond me ) and started to go on and say mean and rude things all over again. I simply told her please do not come to the wedding since her attitude was justNot what I need for the wedding. Welp, she lied to the whole family saying that I said she could come and showed up to our rehearsal and that’s when I told my family she wasn’t invited and they had no idea and we’re upset that she lied to them. She acted like nothing happened and tried to squeeze her way into our rehearsal and our family hanging out. Ultimately she still came to the wedding but I still got to see my niece which makes me happy. Now I have a week vacation with her and my family so wish me luck lol

I replaced my sister for being rude to me and calling me an embarrassment replaced her with my teenage daughter lol I dont feel bad at all

My sister and I have the same relationship.. If she does not support you and your relationship for whatever reason I say REPLACE HER.. There is no telling how she will act on the day of your wedding.. If she doesn't show up then you are down a bridesmaid.. I know you mentioned a back up but she would have to be good and ready to replace her in case shes a no show... Save the stress.. tell your family to kick rocks it is your day so it is your decision.. Just because she is your sister does not mean she HAS to be in your wedding... i wasn't IN my sisters because I did not support her marriage( long story).. I did attend it though.. She will be in mine.. Good luck!!! a battle between sisters is never easy nor fun

I wouldnt replace her.. But i hope yall talked it out & she was apart of your special day...

View Quoted Comment You should’ve put your foot down. There is no being a bigger person at this point. I know its over and done with but her acting that way was childish and stupid.
She should’ve stayed kicked out.

I know this is hard but her toxic behavior will hurt you in the future. It also will hurt your relationship with your niece and your other family.

I'm sorry you have to deal with this situation! Unfortunately, you should keep your sister in the wedding party. The negative words she has said shows that she's unhappy. I hope that your sister can deal with her issues and realize the impact her words and actions have on this around her.