Bridesmaids That are Unreliable

My mood AFTER these ungodly folks stressed me out

Oh no. Sorry to hear this. I'm relieved that I opted out of a wedding party. Less stress amd money.

View Quoted Comment I think having a wedding party has the potential to be stress free, just have to choose the right ppl. I wouldn’t have survived without my sister helping me even with planning. And she’s my maid of honor. She planned my bachelorette party. I didn’t have to do anything but show up...well walk out my bedroom 🤣 But I’m down to 3 ppl now (not including my jr bridesmaid) & those 3 were reliable from the beginning. My sister, my best friend, & my sister in law.

View Quoted Comment Oh sure, it's possible; but it was bound to be filled with stress in my case.

Aww I'm sorry you're going through that, but you're right. You're getting married on that day regardless! Are you still inviting the girls who are no longer in your bridal party to your wedding?


I'm so thankful all my girls ordered their dresses when I asked them to because I hear some horrible stories about bridal parties smh

View Quoted Comment I’m glad that you didn’t have to experience this either. It makes me feel like I’m not important. And I don’t care if they come. One girl I feel like won’t come and I’m okay with that. I definitely learned who my dependable family members are.

View Quoted Comment Well good for you👏🏽...you don’t have to deal with it.

View Quoted Comment Smh that sucks, goodluck with everything else though. At the end of the day it's about you and your fiancé anyways

View Quoted Comment I appreciate that. Thank you. & same to you!

That’s ridiculous bc it’s like....they have one job regarding the wedding, and that’s to show up at a certain time in a certain outfit and be supportive. We all hope they do the other things (standard within my group of friends) like help throw your bachelorette, support the bride however they can, etc. I’m sorry you haven’t had that experience!! Regarding them not ordering their dresses yet (bc for real, the shipping industry is so busy especially during the holiday season and especially this year), could it possibly be that they’re concerned about COVID and just haven’t been honest and direct with you yet? The bride is typically stressed and busy enough, so *they* should probably proactively communicate any concerns to *you*, but I’m just wondering if maybe they’re shy or nervous? Maybe they were waiting to see what would happen with COVID, and then budget issues got in the way, and they’re not sure how to tell you. Idk, just throwing it out there!

View Quoted Comment Honestly I don’t think it’s because of COVID. My maid of honor which is my sister is the one that’s mainly concerned about COVID but she did what she had to do. One girl lost her job went through a breakup. One girl is younger than me in college and doesn’t get paid a lot but seems like she goes out all the time with her best Friend. Ones girl stays with me & just doesn’t seem to care. Also gave me hell about the color and dress style because she has a fatty tumor on her shoulder. One girl lives out of state. Told me last minute that she couldn’t come to my party because her son had a doctors appointment but how did you forget that. I think it’s more so they don’t care and they don’t have the money. But I told them I would help pay half. I asked each of them if they wanted to be a bridesmaid. They said yes. So at this point I’m convinced they just don’t care! It’s hurtful more so aggravating because I have to contact my mua hair stylist which I booked a year out! & you’re right! They literally had one job. At first it was petty drama between certain girls and I told them just wear the dress and get over it!

My bridesmaids are like that as well, all of them have never been part of a bridal party, so none of them have any idea what to do. They were only able to get their dresses for my Feb. wedding by annoying the crap out of them and everything.


I was fortunate enough to have one bridesmaid that cared enough to plan my bachelorette party, but unfortunately they're all living their life and I try my best to understand that.

I'm so sorry. However, they still have time to order their dresses if it only takes a month for the dresses to arrive. I would kindly send them a message remaining them to please purchase their dresses soon as the wedding is only two months away. Honestly, if they don't have their dresses for the wedding then they can attend as guests. I do want to play the devil's advocate for a second. Maybe they thought you would postpone your wedding like a lot of couples have had to do because of Covid or maybe money is tight. A lot of people have lost their jobs or have had their hours decreased and they might not have the extra money right now to purchase a dress.

I am in the same boat as you originally had 6 bridesmaids, now have only 4 one went MIA wont return texts the other at least let me know but not with enough time to even try to get someone else due to the dresses wont be here in time, so he will have 6 groomsmen and ill have 4 bridesmaid's. Its really frustrating.

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Ugh! That must so frustrating!!!

View Quoted Comment I’m to the point now that I don’t even care. Because they made excuses for my bachelorette party. Like it’s hurtful cause I would never do this. If I didn’t have the money I would tell them. But I’m convinced they don’t care. My ex bridesmaid I told her I would pay half and I know she got her check and has yet to text me. So she’s out. One bridesmaid lives in my house and didn’t even mention it yesterday. I’m so aggravated, annoyed and hurt. I’m done

View Quoted Comment It is. But thank y’all for listening! I appreciate it

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I definitely understand why you are hurt, but pre-wedding events aren't required. However, they should've been honest with you that they weren't going to attend for whatever reason. Two of my bridesmaids didn't attend my bachelorette party, but they both had valid reasons and told me in advance. I also learned the hard way who to trust. I lost someone I thought was my best friend during my wedding planning process. It turned out she was a backstabber, but I guess it was better to learn that before the wedding rather than after.

Dude i was the first of my friends to get married and my bridesmaids were kinda like that. i had one girl LITERALLY did not get her dress until THREE days before AND it needed tailoring. i mean at the end of the day as long as they get the dress before the day, it's fine i guess. what's funny is my maid of honor who got married recently, told me that because of my wedding she thought really long and hard about who she wanted as HER bridesmaids. and THAT is why her bridal party went far smoother than mine did haha because she really thought about who would do a good job and be reliable. vs for me i just chose the girls i wanted even though i knew that some may be really unorganized.

View Quoted Comment Lmbo! Girl I really should have thought long and hard smh but the three that’s up there were my day ones. This is the one time that I can say my FH was right