Bridesmaids Not Involved

I wouldn't say any of them are super "involved." Every now and then someone will reach out with a [wedding related] question or just to check in, other than that it's just our normal friendships. My maid of honor has asked me questions about my bachelorette party preferences. Other than that, we have a group Facebook chat for dress chat and such.

My girls are involved to varying degrees. One will be very involved as we get closer because she's not only a bridesmaid but our baker, a DIY and craft queen, and family.. but I don't message her about wedding things constantly. We have two years and I don't want her to be burned out. Another bridesmaid I haven't really mentioned a single thing to since asking her. She works a full time job, has five children, and is experiencing some personal family stuff so I don't want to bother her with anything. The other two I bounce random ideas off of occasionally or ask their opinion. But I try to keep it to a minimum. I don't do it because they have to listen to me as bridesmaids, but because they're my friends and it's natural to talk to them about it. I wouldn't call it planning by any means.

Mine aren't really involved and I like it that way. My MOH (my sister) is the most involved, shes planning a shower for me, and she has helped give me some opinions here and there. Otherwise, my bridesmaids all live in different states, they are only responsible for getting the dress and showing up on time. They aren't giving opinions, I'm not asking opinions, and they aren't helping with anything wedding related. Its worked for us, we get enough opinions from family we don't need it from friends.

When I started planning, I wasn't expecting any help from any of my bridesmaids but they have all offered to help in any way they can (even family members). I'm having a lot of DIY decor but I really have been doing them myself and just asking my MOH (and my FH) for her opinion or advice. One of my BM doesn't live in-state so our only form of communication has been through text and she works the midnight shift and I work the morning shift so I don't text her a lot because I'd hate to be texting her while she's trying to sleep (I've been on the receiving end of that before when I used to work midnights and I was not a happy camper, lol).

All I've really done is communicate to them the game plan and schedule so they know where to be and when they're expected to be there. I actually appreciate it when we don't always talk about the wedding, tbh. I hear it enough at work when people ask "How's wedding planning going?" or "Omg, how are you not stressed?" I've been planning our wedding since we were 13 months out and it has been pretty stress-free because I've had so much time working on putting things together.