Bridesmaids Not Involved

My Bm's really are not involved in the wedding planning much besides the dress appt. for them to try on dresses. They did do a fantastic job with my shower and planned my bachelorette which takes place in two weeks! I didn't want any of them feeling like all we ever do is wedding talk, so I really don't discuss it with them unless they ask.

Mine aren’t involved in anything. I sent them all an email to tell them what dress to get and that’s it. I have a wedding planner and don’t need anyone else’s opinions on things.

Not at all. They don't need to be involved in anything except their attire.

Yes! I have one bridesmaid that is really busy and takes a long time to get back to me and doesn't reach out on her own- but I know she's busy and it doesn't bother me at all.

But also, I haven't reached out to them a lot because I like doing everything myself. I had one BM ask how they could help and I was like lol what.

My best friend is involved a little bit, but only in helping me with some recommendations around the town where I am getting married because she lives there. She's been invaluable. But other than that, no one has helped. They've offered occasionally, but they have lives and jobs and things that they need to be focused on and those things do not include my wedding. I appreciate the offer, but I know how it feels to offer help and then not know how to back out when you get in too deep. So I politely say thank you, but I'm OK.

I do get together with my girls, we don't shop, but we meet for dinner or drinks occasionally when life allows, but it's not for wedding shopping or anything like that.

Mine are involved, but to varying degrees. I certainly don’t have any expectations, but I’m able to talk/text them regarding plans.

Hi! YUP thats US!! My fiance and I did all the planning!! We just told our bridal party where to go get fitted for their suits AND we took each Bridesmaid to get fitted for their dresses! Our 2 flower girls I took them to be fitted! Basically I explained to our bridal party all they need to do is be on time and be pleasant..lol At rehearsal dinner I will let them know what is to be expected and what order they will be walking out to. I tried to make things as easy as possible! My MOH (my younger sister) is very good and keeps calling and checking to see if I need any help.. My step daughter I had to pull teeth just to get her fitted! Mind you we covered the bridal parties attire and mainly because the bridal party consist of younger siblings and our children! I think weddings can be tricky because each wedding is unique and expectations vary! Asking for help or assigning tasks may be helpful BUT I'm very meticulous so I rather do things myself.. Hope this makes sense.. Congratulations

I didn’t have bridesmaids, just a MOH. I hate shopping with other people and went to one bridal salon with her and another friend, more to appease them and it was a big mistake. She certainly asked me how everything was going but I had a very clear vision of what I wanted and being that I am a corporate event planner, i didn’t need help. She knows me well enough to know if I needed her opinion on something, I’d ask. She did come with me for my first fitting and she was really helpful as clothing isn’t really my wheelhouse. She also came with me to my makeup trial and was super helpful with that since again, this is not a strong point for me.

This is how it kinda is for myself as well. Thank you all for your input. Always appreciated in this community!

Mine weren't involved past maybe a text asking opinions.

They shouldn't be involved in planning. It's YOUR wedding.

Mine also lived states away, so trying to have them going places with me would be way too much to ask.

8 out of my 9 bridesmaids are out of state. So they aren't going anywhere with me. The one in state (fiance's sister) went to one venue tour with us and that's it, she's not super into shopping or wedding planning. Most ask me how it's going when I text them, but some don't always. It really doesn't bother me! Your wedding is pretty far away, so there isn't a whole lot for them to help with at this point anyway. I only updated them when the hotel block was done so they could book, when I picked their dress, etc. mostly stuff that mattered to them!

Mine aren’t too involved at all. I let them know what they need to know as in details, meeting times, etc but other than that, I didn’t expect them to be too involved

Ironically the only one asking about our wedding plans and offering to help is FH’s ex!

My bridesmaids have mostly asked me if i needed their help and generally i have not. We have had to meet a few times to try on dresses or i gave them a location where they could try on when they have time. We met up to have brunch around the beginning of planning because they all had questions so why not eat drink and talk wedding. Also, because i don't really like to talk "wedding" all the time, i try to keep my conversations planned out for wedding purposes. If i have questions they are there but them not asking me for updates actually means i'm doing a good job giving them the information, so i don't feel like they lack interest. I have family that hasn't even asked about the wedding so it doesn't bother me. Once the date gets closer there will be lots to discuss but im hoping to keep it very light on everyone as i've been a maid of honor and it can get quite hectic. i do not want to be that demanding bride or always talking about the wedding. because they don't really care as much as i do

My bridesmaids are awesome, but I have one that is super pushy with ideas. She even got me (I don’t like to say no to people) to make my bouquet. I hated it. My maid of honor helped me fixed it. (Looks awesome)

so they are helpful, but one being pushy on how she did her wedding and how it should go, or judgy is stressing me out. She means well, just doesn’t fit my personality. So I’m wishing she didn’t help hahahahaha. It’s funny how different is brides are, and it’s grear!!

Now, my fiancé picked a best man and he could seen less interested in the wedding as humanly possible. We just wanted to talk to him about renting a tux. And he refused to do it. We down graded him to a groomsman. It sucked so bad, and I totally understand that no one will be as interested in your wedding as you, but come on! Easiest thing to do is rent a tux.

Mine weren't involved at all. I asked for their opinions here and there but I basically planned everything on my own. I sent them messages about attire/HMU/plans for the wedding and rehearsal but that is really it. They asked how things were going but did not assist with planning.

Feel you, mine the same way...no one calls to check...but my moh has been my rock. I wish i didnt have a wedding party. But its too late for that. Just think of it as your day, and try to make you happy 😁

I talk to my MOH once a week and she's been my rock. Although I have done all the planning, I ask her for advice and lets me vent. I'm not having any bridesmaids, but my 3 best girlfriends listen to me weekly for advice or just to update them. The whole group have been so supportive and that's what I need the most.

For my youngest daughter her bridesmaids are really not involved. Her MOH is her oldest sister, and she planned her shower but other than that they are really not involved. In fact since I am acting as the wedding planner I send out group text as to dates for the shower, bachelorette, and informational as hair makeup but even just sending out info and asking if they wish to do something is still like pulling teeth.

I never expected my girls to be involved, honestly. Ones in an internship, ones in nursing school, and the other has a 7 year old and a newborn. My wedding and small plans don’t truly matter in their busy lives and I don’t want to make them feel like I need them to drop anything for my wedding.

They all okayed the dress I picked out and 2 of them have offered to help my mom with my shower, but that’s all so far. And honestly I’m completely fine with it!