Bridesmaids Dresses Followup

So he would be against an infinity or convertible dress? They would all look cohesive just slightly different styles in how they tie the dress
Either way it is not his decision what your bridal party wears!

I agree that it's his wedding too, but unless he's ever had to wear a dress/tight/unflattering clothing then he should stay in his lane a little bit. I'm probably going to catch a lot of flack for saying that, but unless you're picking out exactly what the groomsmen are wearing, he needs to release the reigns a little bit. Explain that you love your girls and want them to feel comfortable and gorgeous standing beside you. Show him a ton of pinterest pictures of bridal parties that have different cuts but look cohesive (same company, color, fabric)

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He wants everything to be the exact same. He feels he is entitled to decide because the groomswoman will be very the same exact thing and she is on his side.

My fiance and I had this discussion a while back when talking about bridesmaids dresses. We ended up searching Google for photos of bridal parties, and came to the conclusion that we honestly didn't notice whether the bridesmaids in the photos were wearing the same dress or not unless we were specifically looking for it. As long as the dresses were the same length and color, we didn't notice that they were different. Finding a dress that all of my bridesmaids loved was impossible, so I ended up just letting them pick their own. Maybe search through pictures online with your fiance and see whether everyone wearing different dresses is noticeable to either of you? If not noticeable, let everyone pick out their own dress, or if you decide you want all dresses to be the same, ask what styles your bridesmaids like and try to find a common dress?

View Quoted Comment Tell him that they're your nearest and dearest and not props for photos.

I don't think there's anything wrong with them choosing a different style, especially if they will be in the same color. It'll still match and look cohesive. I don't think he'll understand since there's just so many options for women and not always will they look good on everyone. I can't imagine my FH being this invested in the style of bridesmaid dresses honestly.

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We haven't disgusted the attire for the groomsmen yet. His argument is that he wants the groomsmen in the same dress as the bridesmaids and she is on his side so he should have a say. I will have to find some explains, but he's incredibly stubborn.

Maybe show him pictures of wedding parties in the same color just different styles so he can see that it still looks cohesive while allowing everyone to pick a style that they are comfortable in. I see his point having women in his party too, but it’s hard to find a dress style that flatters everyone. I think the exact same dress for all of the women in the WP is far less common than it was in the past, usually cohesion is achieved through length, color, and fabric. Good luck!

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I didn't think my fiance would be either, but he's been opinionated on things I never imagined he would care one once about. Like I wanted black table clothes, but he was so against that. Never did I imagine a guy would care what table clothes we had.

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I will definitely show him some and cross my fingers that he will be more understanding.

I think your best bet would be to find pictures on Pinterest so he can have a visual of the look you're going for. Guys have a hard time visualizing fashion, they're not that detailed normally. Its easier having them choose their own styles in the same color, because they feel comfortable, which radiates confidence, and everything will still be cohesive.

I’m sorry but I think he’s being unreasonable. He’s not the one who has to wear them and doesn’t have experience with different dress styles. I love mermaid dresses, halters, and one shoulders but I look completely stupid in them. My friends look great in certain styles and not in others (of course I wouldn’t say anything negative to them but they know what they’re comfortable in). In this pic my girls are wearing completely different dresses (I had a third bm but she dropped out) and it doesn’t even look like anything. Guys are all wearing different rentals too. I know it’s his wedding too but this isn’t his area and I think you need to be firm and politely tell him no.

The only vote my FH had in bridesmaid dresses was the color and that is one of our wedding colors so I think that is totally understandable. After that he let me decide how I wanted to do things. I let my girls pick from a selection of 7 or 8 dresses from Azazie that I was good with. I only have 2 girls in my party; honestly I didn't care if they picked the same dress or not. I would try to show him different pics to show that it will look cohesive. As long as they are the same color, length and fabric they will look great together. My only other suggestion would be to make sure they are ordered from the place so there is no color variation if that seems be an issue.

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I think the best way to speak to him about this is to tell him the girls are all very different sizes and there is no way they can all fit into the same style of dress. Explain to him things like bust size and how some women need straps, or some women need to wear special bras and can’t have low cut. Also explain to him things like Shapeware, and how some women need to wear it and it’s very difficult to find certain Shapeware that won’t show with certain dresses like low back etc. Also explain to him that these people are people that you LOVE and CARE about and that if he tries to put them in something that will look terrible on them they will probably drop out of the wedding party and then guess what he won’t have any wedding party at all. Good luck

YIKES. Sorry you’re dealing with this. Mention to him that all matching dresses is very outdated and not the norm anymore. The thing now a days is matching dresses with different silhouettes. Or even complementary colors but we won’t push him there. He needs to back off this isn’t a grooms thing. Hope it works out. We’re here for you.

Cohesion does not mean identical. Explain to him that the color and formality of the dress brings together the cohesiveness of the wedding party. Also, the same dress will not look identical on each person; therefore his idea that they will all look the same is unrealistic. I would also have him ask his groom's woman what she would prefer.

I agree with other posters that searching for pics online and asking him how he likes these looks and see if he even notices if the dresses have variations.

I had the same discussion with my fiance before we even started planning because he wanted to change the wedding colors I had in mind so they wouldn't be exactly like his sisters wedding. So he suggested royal purple (purple is my favorite color) and I wanted him and the groomsmen to wear grey. I showed him what I wanted/liked and he agreed but didn't want it as dark. I want him to be comfortable. I knew from the start that as long as my sisters (my maid and matron of honors) had dresses that were royal purple I didn't really care if they matched and he just lets me deal with the "woman stuff". One of my sisters found a dress on amazon and said wouls this work and I said I loved it. It had a lace back and it was the favorite one she tried out of 2. My other sister tried it on and loved it so they will both end up matching. It's all personal preference. Talking about it doesn't hurt.

I'm sorry, but I think your FH is being very unreasonable. Maybe show him the responses to your question on this forum? lol