Bridesmaids Changing Mid-wedding?

Unfortunately, it's too close to the wire to fix the dresses now, and I agree, it's ridiculous that they didn't worry about that sooner, but I think having them change is better than having them say they just won't be there at all, you know? It's important that they be comfortable. In the long run, we really don't know why they didn't have the dresses altered a month ago or whatever, so just going to have to roll with it. ::hugs::

Yeah I would let them change. If they’re saying is that uncomfortable to the point where they don’t even know if they can fit it while eating and stuff then it sounds like they need to change out of it

I would let them change. I get your point of view and why you are frustrated but honestly the wedding is bigger deal for the bride. They honestly may not have tried on the dress since pick up and realized way too late that the dresses were tight. Also, remember the day is about you and no one will really notice them so it is ok if they look like the other guests because in a way..they are guests at your wedding.

I would probably let them change after the ceremony.

I would totally be fine with them changing. The ceremony is over and their “job” is done. Nothing worse than spending hours in uncomfortable clothing.

Is it all of them or just a few?
If it's all of them, and stores are open in your area, I'd tell them that they can all change before the reception IF they're able to all change into the same dress. The second dress doesn't have to be the same color as the first one, as long as it doesn't clash with your colors, but you could limit it to a small group of colors, and it doesn't have to be a "bridesmaid" dress, it just needs to be wedding-appropriate. As long as you don't have several that are the same size, this is something they should be able to find at a department store tomorrow. If they don't accept that offer, maybe you can offer to give them take out boxes so they can eat the wedding food immediately after they take their dresses off. That would probably irritate them, but you're right that this was literally the only thing (other than stand/sit near you during the ceremony) that they had to do and they didn't give you any advance notice, so your options are limited. I think it's okay not to let them change.

Their role as a bridesmaid is over after the ceremony and photos, I see no issue with them changing. You should want your closest friends to enjoy your reception and they’re not going to do that if they’re uncomfortable.

I agree- let them change. Their role is over after the ceremony & pics. Honestly, nobody is gonna be looking at them, all eyes on you & the hubs!

I would let them change after all photos with them have been taken. They definitely should've brought this to your attention sooner, but unfortunately it's too late now. I can tell you at my brother-in-law's wedding all of his groomsmen changed out of their tuxes during the reception in t-shirts and jeans and no one thought anything of it.

How frustrating!! I have so many questions, but I’ll spare you from my mind running wild. 😂 The only thing I worry about is if you let them know now that you’re being flexible they’ll try and push you to let them change sooner. They didn’t make sure their dress fit and 🤬 it they need to wear the darn dress until your photos are finished! I sure hope they understand that photos take time so they’ve got to wear those dresses longer than your ceremony. Can they go get a pair of spanx to help make the dresses fit better?

Are ALL of their dresses too tight?? If so, it sounds like maybe the sizing chart was inaccurate for the label or some thing- otherwise, what are the chances all of them would be too small? Chances are, they only tried them on quickly when they came in and may not have realized just how snug they were. Or maybe they thought they were just bloated at the time or could lose a few pounds and fit into them. Or maybe it didn’t seem like that big of a deal until they tried them on again for a more extended amount of time. maybe they did not even realize a dress could be let out! To be honest, until I started wedding dress shopping, I had no idea you could let clothing out – I thought you could only alter them down smaller! Whatever the case, it is probably too short notice to get them altered (although I have heard of brides on here having their dresses or bridesmaids dresses emergency altered in 24 hours, so it may be worth checking into!). All things considered, I would just allow them to change after the ceremony and photos. After those obligations are met, it really doesn’t matter if they’re wearing their bridesmaids dresses. And although it seems like an issue now, I guarantee you’ll be so swept up in the moment and so happy the day of the wedding, that you won’t even care about what they’re wearing!

Maybe they don't like the dresses and are looking for an excuse, maybe they gained weight in quarantine and thought they'd lose it, whatever it is... they don't want to wear them longer than they have to. What's there to gain from forcing them to stay in the dresses other than them being annoyed or changing anyway... or leaving?

That's definitely frustrating, but I'd just let them change and not stress about it!! I promise at that point in the day you won't care at all about what your bridesmaids are wearing! And to be fair, I changed out of my wedding dress into a more comfortable dress at my own reception.

But I definitely feel your frustration!! When my bridesmaids dresses came in, after my first bridesmaid tried hers on she told everyone (months before the wedding) that the ribcage is SUPER tight and they all need to try theirs on and get it altered ASAP. Everyone listened except for one bridesmaid who just assumed hers would fit, and when actually she tried it on for the first time on my wedding day it took 7 bridesmaids 35 minutes to get her dressed zipped up!

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