Hi Everyone,
Looking for some advice and maybe some ideas about how to handle my current situation.
When my FH asked me to marry him, I immediately knew who would be in my wedding party--my three best friends. I have one MOH and the other two are my bridesmaids. I asked them without hesitation, and they have been involved in helping me to plan and support ever since. I had been dropping hints to my FH over the last couple of months that he would need to let me know what 3 guys he would be choosing for his groomsmen.
For a little background, we had discussed the details of our wedding together and while he wanted a very small wedding, I wanted a bigger one as I have a large group of friends that were all very excited for our relationship. We compromised and decided on a small/medium sized wedding of about 65 people.
FH has been dodging the question of who would be standing up with him at the wedding so I finally asked him point blank about it and why he hadn't decided on anyone, and what the challenge was he was experiencing. He told me he didn't really feel like he had anyone that he wanted to stand up with him. Most of our male friends are the significant others of my friends, so while they interact at parties and get-togethers, he doesn't really consider them organically his own friends. He does not want anyone to stand with him at our wedding.
At first I was annoyed by this, but after thinking about it and talking with my FH, I understand and respect his decision. I am supportive of him wanting to be on his own, but I still want my girls to be in my wedding party. I want them to walk down the isle ahead of me as part of my processional and I want them in my photos.
That said, I have some questions about how everything else should work.
Should I have them all walk down the isle and then sit down in front during the actual ceremony? I was thinking about still having my MOH stant up with me. Will that still look okay if FH doesn't have a best man standing with him? When it comes to photos, can I just have my BM/MOH's significant others pose with us as there aren't designated groomsmen? For the reception, should we just have a 2 top and have FH and I sit together instead of a head table?
I would love to hear from anyone who has had this situation or something similar and what you did to include your girls without making it awkward or glaringly obvious that FH didn't want anyone.
Thanks!
