Bridesmaids Asks!!

I am strongly opposed to bridesmaid proposals with gifts. Making a big deal of asking just makes them feel obligated to accept, which can cause a lot of drama later.

I mean my girls kind of just know..... and I also mentioned to them "if" I have a bridal party. I know I want to but we aren't 100% sure yet on what we are doing. It'll be very casual..... like text/Facebook message casual. I might feel them out and then do something small like a card. I also liked PP's bouquet idea! I'd probably feel each girl out before doing any sort of "bridesmaid proposal," though (seriously..... this is me snarking but when TH did everything become a proposal?! Proms and now bridesmaids.......). That way I can still do the cutesy "official" asking if I want, without having to worry about a gal feeling awkward and like she has to accept. That's the last thing I'd want for them!

We're not! Because there are so many and some are married or have dates, we decided to do a sweetheart table and let them all sit with their partners. It's less of a headache for me and I'm going to have their seats as close to our table as possible. There is really no need for a big head table with us because we are all going to just end up on the dance floor together anyway.

One way around that drama is to casually mention it to them beforehand. Because I have so many, I made sure to sort of "secure" it with them first. That's why I did the card type that I did. They had already accepted informally, but me mailing these to them was my way of saying "let's get started and get ready to have a blast!" The feedback I received was that they felt special just because I asked in a more formal way.

I have 8 girls and each is close to me in the same way as the others, I do not have a MOH simply because I do not have a sister & I would never want any of them to feel that they are not just as important to me as the other.

I didn't do proposal boxes, I asked them all at my engagement party. I did feel them out before the party to make sure that they wanted/could do it & each was more excited than the next. They are best friends and they know that if they needed to back out at anytime, there would be no hurt feelings, we are all adults - no drama necessary.

I have 7 and 2 junior bridesmaids. I asked the 7 adults with a little candle that said "Will you be my bridesmaid?" and the 2 juniors with a card. It was super cute asking with a little gift, especially because I was engaged for 2 years already by the time I asked my bridesmaids so none of them were expecting it! As far as MOH goes, I struggled with my decision too because I don't have sisters or close female family members, and I truly am close with all 7 of the girls. I ended up picking the friend that is most like family to me, she comes to my family events and my fiance and I do pretty much everything with her and her long-term boyfriend. When we have kids one day her and her bf will be like aunts and uncles to them so I decided to ask her to be MOH.

Side note: Try to wait until as close to a year out as possible. Friendships can change, and it's hard for people to commit to something too far in advance, because they won't know if something very important might conflict. I asked 13 months out, and everything is going great!

I also had 8 people to ask! For five of them, I sent cards that I found on Etsy that say "I Can't Say I Do Without You!" and on the inside, wrote "Will you be my bridesmaid/man?" These are for the ones who live in different parts of the State that I do not see often. For the other three that I see at least weekly/monthly, they are also big Harry Potter fans, so I purchased mini owls and, on my computer, created a card that said "The Wand Chooses the Wizard..." on the front, and on the inside it said "And the bride chooses her maids! Will you be my bridesmaid/MOH?" I attached those to the ankles of the little owls with twine and gave those to them.

It wasn't a huge gesture, but as you said... having that many people does add up! I plan to get them very nice gifts to give them during the rehearsal dinner, but did not feel I needed to do a grand gesture up front. I know that's a big trend now, but that is a LOT of money!

I asked my bridesmaids/men a year in advance - I know that is not the norm here on WW, but I have been friends with a lot of these people for over a decade, and two are my older brothers, so I did not foresee one more year as being a big change in our relationships. Do what you feel is right for you!

I have 9 bridesmaids (Saving for their thank-you gifts is challenging but worth it, I love them all)

I just went to Meijer, found wooden letters, painted it blue, and wrote a cheesy bridesmaid thing on the back. They all got a good kick out of it and it cost me $10 total.

You really don't have to do anything big. I like the flower idea if they're all close and you'll be seeing them. I'd worry more about thank-you gifts instead

I have 8 as well! I asked my best friend since 2nd grade to be my MOH. I'm asking them Sunday; I have proposal boxes with

champagne flutes

champagne

bath bombs

photo frames

chocolate

Then I'm buying them robes and paying for their hair and makeup!

Just pinterest; you'll find great ideas!