Bridesmaid wants to change into a different dress for the reception.

If you dont care that shes doing it then i think its fine!

Why would it be rude?

If she's so desperate to get out of the dress, by all means let her do it. A comfortable BM is much more of an asset than a cranky one.

Also, how are you having a dress "bustled" into a short one?

I think it's a a little weird. Not for you but for her. However if one of my girls asked this I woulnd't mind either. Once the pics are taken who cares.

I told my BMs they are free to change at the reception, after all pics are done, completely up to them.

I wouldn't mind if they were that uncomfy.

I don't think there's a problem with BMs changing into different dresses. I've been to plenty of weddings where the BMs did and I never heard anything from anyone.

I think as long as she puts on another dress thats fine but if she were to change into jeans or sweats I would be upset

That's what I was thinking that it was fine as long as it was still something she would wear to a formal wedding. Thank you Girls! I love how much help there is on this site for all of you brides, wives and brides to be!

It's weird to me. It's not her wedding. Why should she have dress change?? Is someone taking her picture or something?

However, if it's after your pictures and dances, it's shouldn't be a problem....especially if you are not having a long wedding party table. If you and FH are doing a sweetheart table then it won't be a big deal.

@Yardiegirl I would rather my bridesmaid be comfortable to dance and play games during the reception than in a dress she feels really uncomfortable in. She is staying in it for ceremony and all formal pictures.

If i had the option to get out of my BM dress I would have it was hot pink and did not look good, it was ugly.

She is changing after dinner.

I'm glad you posted this thread. I will be allowing my girls to unanymously choose a dress that they would love to wear for the entire evening. My only mandates are that the colors be Lagoon and the dresses be tea length. It's already a competion amongst us at every event we attend. I don't want them wearing anything similar to my first gown or reception gown.

Weddings are like 5 hours long...I've worn uncomfortable clothes and shoes for longer than that...why not do like Joanne and pick a dress that is comfortable to wear the whole time?

but like I said...if you don't care then why are we talking?

Weddings are like 5 hours long...I've worn uncomfortable clothes and shoes for longer than that...why not do like Joanne and pick a dress that is comfortable to wear the whole time?

but like I said...if you don't care then why are we talking?

I don't see a problem with it.

I don't think it is a problem. At my friend's wedding her sister-in-law changed into jeans at the VERY end of the night bc her dress as so uncomfortable...the dress ended up being so short on her because of her bust and booty, that she could barely sit all night, let alone get freaky on the dance floor... I thought she was a saint for lasting that long. She looked miserable all day.

Do you have a pic of the dress? just curious what it looks like.

I don't think it's a problem if the dress is really uncomfortable. I'm not really into the idea of a bridesmaid button though. Maybe she feels uncomfortable in the spotlight as a BM, and a button might make that worse.

No she isn't uncomfortable in the spotlight. Unfortunately the dress just doesn't fit well in certain places even though it is the correct size according to the measurements. She is a bigger girl like me so that doesn't help with dresses fitting well sometimes. She just doesn't feel comfortable in the actual dress for dancing and such, like she would be tugging and pulling at it all night instead of just having fun dancing you know?

Reason I asked the question was because I wanted to know if anyone thought it would be weird if she did change even though I do not mind. I only have 2 BM's I don't know if the other BM would like to change but she said she is having boob issues with the dress lol. So far only 1 will be changing.

This is the dress:

I picked the dress because it was flowy and would be flattering to all shapes and sizes because of the shape and material. I showed them months prior and they liked the dress.

I don't see it as rude. If you are fine with it, then awesome. That is why I gave my girls free range of what they want to wear. I told them to pick a dress they can see being in for the next say... 8 hrs at the most. If they decide to change still, whatever, doesn't bother me.

I have almost always changed out of my BM dresses at weddings after ceremoney pic's etc. My brides always told me bring something more comfortable but still pretty to change into for the reception. So that's what I did I think it's nice, especially if you picked the dress and it's not overly comfortable for your BM's. They are there to support you and make your day special so after it all is said and done and the party starts it's nice to make sure they are comfortable.

Not a problem.

Our RB changed into spiderman pajamas at 9:30 and then rocked the dance floor in them for a couple hours.