Bridesmaid wants me to drive her to my venue and take her home on my wedding day

Absolutely not! It's ridiculous that she expects you to drive her to and from the wedding. It she wants a ride tell her to get an Uber.

I’m sorry, she wants you to do what?! That is in no way your responsibility and talk about an awkward car ride. “We just got married and are excited, tired, but ready to spend some time reliving the day - just the two of us, but…. Here is the third wheel in the backseat.” She should ask another bridesmaid, friend or Uber rather than place that on you.

She needs to ask someone else. My sister tried to do this. She's not the most responsible so when I asked who was taking her to the wedding/hotel (we live near Minneapolis and the venue was in Eau Claire Wisconsin cause my husband is from Milwaukee). She was like "I figured I would just go with you". She had no consideration that we would like to use our car to take decorations (my mom and Stepdad cleared out the back of their van so that made it easier). She also conveniently forgot that we only booked a hotel room for her and my MOH for Friday and Saturday (I stayed with them Friday night) and that we were staying at the hotel until Monday. She was like "Oh I might not work till Tuesday so I could stay." Luckily I made sure to have this conversation in front of my grandma and dad. I told her she could not stay with us Saturday-Monday. Finally, my dad said he could take her. She still insisted on coming with us on the way there so as to not make my dad drive out of his way (considering my dad but not the couple of the day). I'd like to say that was the only time she made me want to pull my hair out but, that would be a lie.

Put your foot down. It is on every guest to find a way to the event. No one should even consider trying to infiltrate the couple after the event (unless it's their kids and they are coming home with them and not staying with grandparents). If she still acting entitled (which is what she's doing) tell her you have enough on your plate and it's not cruel to want to spend your event and after your event with YOUR NEW HUSBAND.

Oh my goodness, you are definitely not the jerk. It sounds like she is just thinking of basic logistics (you both going to and from the same place) and not the bigger picture here (that you will be excited, exhausted newly weds and wanting to be alone). It shocks me how oblivious people can be sometimes 🤦🏼‍♀️
Being her Uber driver for your wedding is definitely not your responsibility. She needs to figure out her own transportation.

That's a whole big pile of NOPE.

Bridesmaids are there to make YOUR day easier, not the other way around. Also, there is a rule on wedding day that if you have an issue or need something,

ASK ANYONE BUT THE BRIDE.

Um nooo. That’s kinda insensitive of her. At the end of the night, you’ll still have a hundred things to do. Saying good bye to guests, collect your flowers and cake, etc. you’ll be so tired.
Why can’t she ask the other bridesmaids or guests?

Your bridesmaid is a child.

You are not responsible for being her chauffeur on your wedding night.

Set a firm boundary. If she can't find her own transportation, lose the drama (and the bridesmaid).

Is this the same bridesmaid who hasn't purchased a dress a week before the wedding??

Girl you need to demote this person as a bridesmaid, she isn't making your life easier, she's making it hell. I would demote her as a bridesmaid and if she wants to come, she can make her own arrangements like an adult.

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I agree with this! You are not being cruel by not being willing to chauffeur her to/from your wedding. I would tell her to ask someone else (asking another bridesmaid is a good idea) or get an Uber or even drive herself. This isn't your responsibility, and do not feel bad by telling her no.

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately that’s a different bridesmaid- I have quite the group🤣

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Oh jeez. I hope you have some good supportive people in your corner.

I would still fire the bridesmaid who hasn't gotten a gown yet and the other one can hitchhike home. Do not take her.

You are not being the mean one at all - that's something she shouldn't have even asked to begin with. or if she asked if you knew someone who could give her a ride to/from that's ok but for her to ask YOU to do it directly is kind of mean considering you got a lot going on.

Not at all! I think it's actually rude of her to ask when it's your special day.. LOL! I would ask if someone else is able to give her a ride or figure it out. And if she thinks that's cruel.. well it's more cruel for her to take away that one on one time between you and your FH when you guys are leaving. Just saying.

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I would never recommend demoting/firing a wedding party member. That backfires horribly and ends relationships. You'll just end up looking awful.

Having said that, you do not owe her a ride to and from the venue. A straight up "no, that won't be possible" is all you need to say. Don't offer to help find her a ride. Don't give reasons. "NO" is a complete sentence.

I can’t believe the nerve of some people. Either that or lack of common sense.

I had to re-read this like three times because I thought it was a joke. The fact she found it appropriate to ask this of you, is crazy to me. That is one of the most selfish moves I’ve heard a friend ask a bride/groom. I’m not taking anyone no place with me and my husband unless we are in a poly relationship and we all three just got married. WOOSAA.

Calling an Uber is not your responsibility

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I agree 1000%! Where do you find these kinds of irresponsible, clueless, senseless people?!?!

Nope. Nope, nope. This is actually unbelievable. In my head I would be saying “Golly, no, I can’t chauffeur you around…. BECAUSE I’M BUSY GETTING MARRIED THAT DAY.” 🙄 😝

Uummm… no.. it’s your wedding day. She can find a ride with someone else. . She is the one being rude and inconsiderate.