Bridesmaid Shoe Help!!!!

Can you just give them a color and just let them pick a shoe that they’re comfortable in? No one will care if they match.

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They have the color nude, and they have to be the same heel height. FH has them walking down with the person they are close in height with and if they all get different heels then it throws that all off. I am not trying to be difficult with them.. just want them to pick something already

Could they all just wear the same color, instead of the same shoe? My bridesmaids (4) initially all wanted to match, as they picked out the same dress (I didn’t care too much either way, as I’ve never worn the exact same shoe as a bridesmaid myself), but, as the shoe they all fell in love with in store was sold out in their sizes, they exchanged dozens of emails with different options. With no one agreeing or finding a similar shoe, I finally asked them to pick out their top two choices in rose gold (their color preference) from David’s Bridal (they periodically have Buy 1, Get 1 50% off sales) and send photos to me to review. Their number one choices were different styles of wedges (2) and heels (2), and, as they were very complimentary, we ordered those and they’ll likely walk down in/stand every other style type. I’d rather they be comfortable than worry if the shoes are an exact match, especially if no one is even going to notice or pay attention to their shoes for more than a few minutes. Our flower girls (2) also have different types of shoes (both in gold), as one wears a children’s size while her older sister already wears a women’s size shoe.

I would try your hardest to let go of shoe expectations and height expectations when paired with a groomsman. These are all things that don’t actually matter - you marrying the love of your life is what matters! Also, that your guests have a place to sit and have food to eat. The less you micromanage the less can go wrong at your wedding. Just my two cents. Good luck

Just pick a color and let them wear whatever shoe is comfortable for them. A lot of people have issues with feet, ankles, knees, etc. that would make wearing a certain type of shoe uncomfortable and/or painful, and it wouldn’t be right to force them to be in pain for your wedding. The health and well-being of your bridal party is way more important than the aesthetic of shoes. Plus, when they are standing at the altar with you, nobody is going to be looking at their shoes. All eyes will be on you and your fiancé.

View Quoted Comment Does that really matter though? As a wedding guest,
I’ve never cared that the wedding party was coordinated by height and I can’t imagine that, as the bride, you will actually be worried about that at your wedding ceremony.

I've been in several weddings and always hated having to wear the same shoes, because I hate stiletto type heels, I also don't like super casual sandal flats, I'd rather be able to wear a chunky low heel, but finding something everyone loves is never doable. Just let them pick something in a color, let your girls be comfortable, it should be more important to you than height coordination.

Just allow them to choose their own but pick the color. That is what I’m doing. I also did that with their dresses because the same style and length does not work for everyone and I want them to be comfortable and feel beautiful

Take from someone who admins in a shoe group it is 100% true that some women can’t do heels or flats or ankle length this is a real thing and everyone’s feet are different! Don’t sweat the 1-2” height difference just enjoy your day. I would rather have someone off in height then try to walk in shoes they don’t feel comfortable in haha. Your wedding is going to be amazing and beautiful.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Just pick something and move to the next item on your list. Your attendants are not props so let them be who they are.


Even when the bridesmaid dresses are short, no one cares what color or height their shoes are. They might possibly notice for .005 seconds and then focus on you and fiancé.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. As a guest, I have never paid attention to, or cared about, whether the wedding party was exactly coordinated in height, and also never noticed whether they were all wearing the same shoes or not. I think letting the bridesmaids each pick their own shoe in the color you specify would be sufficient! That way, everyone is comfortable in the style they chose, yet the color is still matching.

With all due respect, if I was your BM, I would drop out if you made me wear a shoe that was not appropriate for my feet. I have Achilles issues and can't wear flats. I also can't wear high heels because my ankles are weak and prone to sprains. Tell your FH to get over the height thing and let your bridesmaids pick their shoes like adults. Are you weighing the bridal party too? Lol Honestly, the height thing is going a little too far.

I don't see why it matches if their height coordinates with who they walk down the aisle with. The actual walking down the aisle is less than 30 seconds. This wouldn't be something I would let myself get so stressed out about.

At this point, you might want to ease up about the shoes. When it came to shoes, jewelry, and hair, I left my bridesmaids on their own. They were all still different people, and I didn't want them to be total carbon copies of each other. I had four bridesmaids, one junior bridesmaid, and two flower girls. I suggested silver or yellow, but I wasn't picky. I was more concerned that they had the same dress. Oddly enough, they all ended up wearing silver shoes! However, one wore flats while the other three wore heels, and one of the girls who wore heels chose strappy ones. In the end, it all worked! If you really want some sort of consistency, maybe just suggest the same color, and leave them on their own from there.

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You are way overthinking this. A 15 second walk down an aisle is not worth this. It doesn't matter how tall people are for that, they aren't props.

I agree with the others, just pick a colour and let them wear something they already own or can borrow.

If the height thing is an issue, why not just reorder the BMs by height including their shoes? They can just send you their heights, you don't need them all together. You definitely want them in shoes that are comfortable for them, otherwise they'll be miserable for you wedding.

Is it possible to walk down the aisle barefoot? I have always liked the idea of having an jewelry anklet that attaches to the big toe to look like the top of a sandals rather than shoes

What about a wedge? Maybe a sling back since the one girl can’t have anything around her ankle (😂). There’s some cute ones out there. Maybe check Nordstrom or DSW depending on the price range you’re going for. Good luck!

Thanks for the input, I hope all your weddings are beautiful. I wont be asking anymore questions in the forums. Thanks again.