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Beginner September 2018

Bridesmaid rsvp advise

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Kinley, on September 7, 2018 at 1:31 PM

Hi all! I have a maid of honor that will not RSVP. I’m having sort of a destination wedding, it’s 7 hours away. She has know about the distance prior to me asking her to be my maid of honor. She assured me that it would me no problem at all. The RSVPs deadline was August 31st. I’ve spoken with her about needing to know if she’ll be there or not and I got “I don’t know what to tell you if I don’t know how I’m going to get there”. She’s 21 and never went and got her drivers license. Her boyfriend (they have been living together for 5 years) doesn’t want yo drive that far. She can’t afford the plan ticket. I let her know I’d give her and extra week to figure things out, but I need an answer today. Well, she’s still giving me an “I don’t know if I’ll be there”. I really just need to know what I’m suppose to say to her without upsetting her to the point of ruining our friendship. Thanks.

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Beginner September 2018
Kinley · on September 7, 2018 at 2:53 PM
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I have a two passenger truck. One seat for me, one for fiancé. Wouldn’t I have thought of that?
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Kinley · on September 7, 2018 at 2:54 PM
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Thank you, you have been a great help.
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April · on September 7, 2018 at 3:05 PM
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I don't have a MOH but if it was either of the 2 women I would have as my MOH - I would just pay for them to get there myself. I don't have that in my budget. It is going on credit. But I don't think I could survive the day without either of these 2 women there.
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Jen · on September 7, 2018 at 5:20 PM
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Unfortunately she is very likely not attending your wedding and just doesn't know how to tell you. I would gently call her and let her know you MUST know today and say you suspect due to cost, lack of a driver's license, lack of a boyfriend who wants to drive her, etc. that this just isn't possible for her. Let her know it's okay, you understand, etc. you will get together right afterwards with stories, pictures, etc. but you really need to know. Maybe too let her know you wish you could help with the flight, renting car that would fit her too to ride with you, etc. but with the fire, wedding, etc. money is tight for you too. Good luck - difficult situation for you both to be in.
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Daria · on September 7, 2018 at 6:51 PM
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It sounds like she either can't or doesn't want to, but doesn't want to tell you that. I think you'd be letting her off the hook, just by telling her that you understand.
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