Bridesmaid not invited to Bachelorette party

I would say something. How incredibly rude of your sister. Not that it makes it okay, but are you underage?

Wait— what?!!


Is there some sort of friction in your guys’ relationship? I just can’t fathom why she wouldn’t want one of her bridesmaid— her sister of all people— at her bachelorette.
I had mine in Vegas, and I made sure that my 16 year-old sister was still invited for part of it.
Need more info. But I gotta would definitely say something.

View Quoted Comment No I am 25

View Quoted Comment I dont believe we have any friction between us and although we arent super close anymore since I live far away now I still consider her very important to me. I'm just as confused about the whole thing.

View Quoted Comment Hmm that’s so weird! If you feel comfortable enough and you have a good relationship with her, I would definitely talk to her about it to clear the air before the wedding. I feel like it would be super awkward if you didn’t.


Sorry this happened to you.

That isn't ok. You should definitely approach her, just try to keep an even tone until you find out why, I can't hazard a guess as the reasoning. Honestly, I feel I would be heartbroken. That is just rude and uncalled for.

Hmm are you older than her friend group?

But I agree she should have just been upfront if she was having one and only wanted her friends. But I feel like it’d an auto invite if you are a bridesmaid so that’s weird to me.

View Quoted Comment She is only 2 years older than me so her friends are around the same age as me. I honestly dont know how to approach her about this without getting upset or upsetting her. Our mom was worried that I was going to call her and make a scene during her bachelorette party but I didnt have it in me to ruin such a big event.

Ew I don't like that one bit. So rude, hurtful, and passive aggressive. She doesn't get to be a brat because she's getting married! And shame on your mother, too. I'm glad you were an adult and didn't call her during, but she doesn't get an entire month to be tip toed around. She asked you to be a bridesmaid, you've gone beyond by attending her (ridiculous number of) events. I have no idea why she would do that, but I would question continuing as a bridesmaid. You seem nicer than me though

View Quoted Comment I’d just call her when she gets back and you’ve had time to cool down about it.

I don't mean to be rude but why wouldn't you mom be on your side and see how much this hurts you?! Your sister is clearly in the wrong.

Tread lightly until you have talked about it. It is possible that the 2,4 whatever people who planned and are paying stuff for the bride, wanted a small group, the number of people who fit in a cab, or beds in 2 hotel rooms, or max number restaurants are allowed to have in a group, number of people at a 60-72 inch table, with only one in 3 or 4 tables taken due to social distancing. And so, hostesses or planners rule and invite, not brides.
But just as she has had multiple small showers, usually no person but bride goes to more than one, the numbers may have limited them, and your sister had no say in who they invited. But this does not mean you and a few other people, small group that is within guidelines of open places, transportation , cannot have a separate celebration.
Bridesmaids are not an automatic invitation. If hostesses offer a trip for 4 plus a bride, and there are 6-10 bridesmaids and 4-5 other close friends who want a Bach, they get split by whoever planned it's decisions. The restrictions on group sizes are strict. You being 6 hours away may have to do with why the planners did not include you. Friends who decided not to cancel their July wedding ( yet) were planning a Bach and bachelorette for this weekend, hiking and back packing 2 groups of 7. When they arrived, they found that the National Forest just a day ago limited group sizes, and number of people who can start at a given time. And that they cannot form any groups. Even outdoors in windy White Mountains. 4 men at one trail head. The other 4 women took a different completely different hike. And the rest of each planned group went home. went home. So before getting upset at what seems to you, me, and everyone to be really rude, wait til you find out if they were limited by what hostesses planned, or virus planning. .... Usually with multiple showers, only the bride attends more than one. How many did you go to?

Oh I would absolutely say something. That is rude and you deserve at least an answer.

That’s ridiculous... you should say something. A pp mentioned it could have been a small gathering so it sounds like the bride does have a lot of friends as you mentioned you went to six showers. So MAYBE just maybe there’s a reasonable explanation such as this was for a very specific friend group or that it was a trip they already had planned and are happening to also call it a bachelorette. Either way it’s good to just know what is up because if it’s what you think it is then you do deserve more cause that’s rude

I don’t think your mom let it slip. What happened was pretty crappy. Say something.

Where do you live that they're able to have a bachelorette party? I wouldve assumed at this time anyone is the states wouldve postponed gatherings from different households. I personally wouldnt even want to go to one right now anyways!

View Quoted Comment I'm petty so I would've lol!


But in all seriousness that is so unbelievably rude! I wish you had called her and told her how upset you are so she would feel bad all weekend! She deserves it! I'm fuming from just reading that! I'd not go to her wedding and tell her to piss off.

Omg! I am so sorry. Were you the only bridesmaid not invited?

Your sister was so rude for not inviting you/talking to you about this. Your mom should have also taken your side. I can't believe a 27 year old wouldn't at least talk to you about this. I feel like the only logical explanation is that they're all like college or high school friends and it was a small group get together that they are calling her "bachelorette party"?? Even so, she should have at least acknowledged you.

I'm childish enough that I would text her with a Hi! Whatcha Doin'? and see what kind of response I'd get.