Bridesmaid not as excited as i hoped

Your words sound like this was an engagement.

Honestly, I'd probably be a little put off and uncomfortable if you asked me in front of EVERYBODY.

I'm pretty sure being asked to be a BM isn't a scenario that leads to being shocked and needing to digest. Maybe that's just their reaction. And there isn't a need to spend extra time with your MOH because she is your MOH

I feel like "shock" is much too strong of a word. I can't think of any instance where a friend asking me to be in their wedding would "shock" me so much I was quiet. Agree with pp's, you asked too soon, in public may have been weird for them. Just chat with them in private sometime in the next few months and let them know you'd love for them to be in the wedding but understand if they'd rather not.

I've been a bridesmaid 6 times- I said yes because I was put on the spot- one of them I only knew through work- it was awkward- she felt closer to me than I did her I guess--- it's a big obligation to be a bm- yeah, their job may only be to show up, but we all know most bm do more- from hosting parities to buying dresses/ it gets spendy!!!!

There is a huge cost involved for some when agreeing to be a bridesmaid. Maybe they are concerned about that.

Being a bridesmaid can be very expensive, in terms of time and money. Not always, but some brides and MOHs, plan on out of town bachelorette weekends, expensive showers, expensive dresses, etc.