Bridesmaid not as excited as i hoped

I don't know....being a bridesmaid is not everyone's thing. I would personally love to be asked but not everyone is.

No one will be as excited about your wedding as you are.

Your wedding is over a year away. Don't approach the subject with them. It doesn't matter if they're gushing excitement or not, and nagging them about it only sets up the expectation that you will be high maintenance for the next 14 months. Not everyone is super emotionally expressive.

I mean you asked them about an event that's almost a year and a half away. That's a long time and most people won't be excited at this point.

They may feel like they were put on the spot. Asking publicly/in mixed company makes a lot of people uncomfortable.

Yes i think they probably felt put on the spot. So I'm hoping to get together with each of them soon. I'm so happy my maid of honor is so thrilled and we can spend more time together!

Yeah definitely just chat with them! When I ask my girls I'll just have a conversation with them up front about what it means to me and what it means to them just so they have a chance to talk it out/say no. I'm sure you'll get some clarity!

Being a bridesmaid is not always fun. I've done it a couple times, and both times, I mostly wish I hadn't. Some of it was fun, but the cost and time commitment (and emotional exhaustion of spending so much time with women I didn't know.... or like in some cases) was not worth it for me.

Worth noting, I was not super close to the bride either time (the 2nd my best friend was the groom and while I was honored to be there, I wish I had been on his side)

Definitely make sure people are not just saying yes because they feel obligated and that you are having honest time and budget chats with each girl individually.

It seems a little early to be asking since your wedding is so far out... but that aside just accept that not everyone will be as excited as you. And that's ok! You will have some girls (or guys if you're having them), that really rally around you during this time, so enjoy it but know that not everyone will share the same feelings.

Yeah being a bridesmaid can be kind of a burden as much as it is an honor. My best friend told me that her and my bridesmaids have a separate "group me" where they talk about planning my events. Some are more invested than others and I think that the ones that aren't that invested might get annoyed by it and then the notifications of lol.

Honestly being a BM kinda sucks. You have to buy a dress that looks horrible on you. You have to pay money to get your hair and makeup done since a lot of brides don't want to pay for it. You have to pay hella money for a bachelorette party. You have to pay for a bridal shower if no one throws one for her. It costs a lot of money to be in someone's wedding. It's a blessing and a curse but the only advice I can give you is to not be that bride.

I'm in my friends wedding and with everything I've spent over $500. All the girls in my wedding are spending close to $300. I'm paying for their hair and their BM dress is $70 from RTR. My FHs Aunt threw us a shower and my bachelorette party is mostly taken care of. Honestly they are all thankful that I'm being mindful of expenses and I feel like brides aren't the same way.

They probably thought they were there to celebrate you & your SO when they got put on the spot. You asked them way too early but it's already done now. Hopefully, you'll at least have the budget conversations privately and one on one. Hopefully, none of your friendships change between now and then either.

Nobody is as excited as you are about your wedding, better to hear that now before your expectations are sky high. You shouldn't ask anyone to be in your bridal party before 8-10 months out from your wedding. A lot can and probably will change before next August.

Ummm you asked WAY TOO SOON.

Also what do you want them to do?! Cry? Jump up and down like a five year old on Christmas morning?

Yeah, I was never all that excited about being a BM because all I could think about was the amount of money it would cost me and whether I could get the time off from work. Chill out and remember that no one will be as excited for your wedding as you are.

It is not for everyone. There are literally 2 people I would be happy to be a bridesmaid to. I love all my close friends, just being a bridesmaid is not really my thing.

I have 5 BM and they were all very happy to be one but now they are not acting super excited...and really haven't been there for me through this process. I would just leave them alone

It's just really early, give them some time & tell them you didnt mean to put them on the spot. I'm sure its just a misunderstanding & the timing was just off. Don't stress about it! Also, don't expect them to actually be your 'maids!' They are there to support you, not plan your wedding for you. Enjoy having them near & keep in mind they also have a life of their own & could be going through things that you know nothing of.

What were they supposed to do? Jump up and down with excitement? Cry? Kiss your feet? When I asked my MOH, her response was nodding her head and saying "cool."

Too early

1) No one will be as excited for your wedding as you

2) You asked WAY too early

3) You asked in public