Bridesmaid might ruin my wedding - Can I kick her out?? What should I do?

You don't kick people out like a bouncer at a club.

You knew who she was and decided to include her anyway.

As the adult in the situation, you grin and bear in.

She sounds like a shit show, but you really can't "kick out" or fire a bridesmaid unless you want to completely trash your relationship. You'll also be playing into her victim complex. I would keep her as a bridesmaid but just keep her at arms length until the wedding.

If you ask her not to be a bridesmaid, won't she still be attending as a guest anyway? And if that's the case she can still possibly cause a scene so removing her from your bridal party is not really the answer. Does she have outbursts like this often?

Sadly, I agree with Anne. You are going to have to grin and bear it. Hopefully in 5 months, she'll get her act together.

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Um... well..... you cant kick her out of the wedding unless you want to make it worse.

And what pray tell, did she not get her way about? She sounds immature, but have you talked to her? Like really sat down with her and played the friend/big sister role? Has your FH talked to her about any of this?

Be prepared to have a very damaged relationship if you cut her.

Trashed your house? Or her mom's?

Whatever, that's your new sil, you don't kick anyone out most certainly not family.

As annoying as it is I would just try to please her so she's happy on your wedding day and doesn't do anything too dramatic. It's unfortunate that she's still acting like a preteen at 19 :/

She will be at the wedding anyways I'm assuming, so the potential for her to cause some drama would be there anyways, you can't kick her out of the bridal party you are stuck with her

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She sounds like she has untreated mental health issues. Why not treat her like a friend and express your concerns about her anger management issues?

Do you still want the relationship?

Do you want her to attend the wedding as a guest?

Please answer because it does determine whether you kick her out of the wedding party.

Unsure about the original catalyst- but you think if you drop her from the wedding party- she's going to just handle it gracefully?

Odds are whatever happened- cutting her from the bridal party is going to be 10x worse reaction.

Are you ready and willing to be prepared for a violent lashing out? And odds are you're going to severe the relationship completely with that move.

Considering it's FH's sister I don't think it's a good idea to attempt to kick her out - an act like that is a relationship ruiner, and something you'll probably never hear the end of. Don't do it.

First off, she's 19. Think about that. If you're her friend talk to her about her actions. A lot of people do negative actions to get attention. Suggest to her ways of dealing with her feelings. Do what a friend would do. Don't jump to conclusions and kick her out!

I would have FH talk to her, super seriously, if the relationship is good. As her brother she should respect and look up to him and want to please him on his wedding day. Like others said kicking her out will probably just make her more of a nightmare on the day of since we're assuming she's still invited.

It sounds like something else is going on here...perhaps the onset of mental health issue or some substance abuse

Man, it's postie ghostie day at the WW Corral.

So, you want to kick out someone with an alleged history of ridiculous tantrums, out of your wedding to avoid drama?

Uh-huh...I see...makes sense...

Also, this sentence strikes me as odd: "As of recent I don't consider her a good or close friend anymore, but I have been maintaining our friendship *because she still values it* and for my relationship with his family."

This implicates she views you as a close friend still and suggests that you're just amusing her for whatever reason.

If someone she views as a close friend, who is also marrying her brother, decides to kick her out the wedding party...with her history, if that history is indeed true...yeah, good luck with that...

Holy hell! How old are you?

Yeah, you can totally kick her out. Good luck at Christmas and Thanksgiving!

Kicking her out sounds like one of the worst possible decisions you could make if you want a drama free wedding.

Yea, kick out your FSIL. Good Plan Bro.