Bridesmaid is trying to break the no kid rule.. help!

Maybe mention she might want to line up some form of child care at your wedding destination "just in case", because the no-kid thing will be enforced.

If she knew about it from the beginning, she had the option to decline your offer to be a bridesmaid. I would tell her that there is no exception and that if she decides she can't come because of this, you understand. I get if she is travelling, not bringing her child might be a lot to ask of her, but she has/had the option to decline.

Just let her know that you hope she doesn't buy her child a ticket, because you'd hate for her to waste her money, and that you are strict on your no kid rule.

"Just in case"?? just in case what?? you change your mind on the one rule you've had since the beginning?? Sounds like she isn't respecting your decision. I'm sorry this is happening to you! I would definitely put my footdown asap!

I'm with Mariangeli - "just in case" of what?!

What does she mean "just in case"? Just in case you change your mind or just in case both sets of grandparents watching him falls through? Tell her why would she A buy a plane ticket and B waste more money because she'd need childcare because there are no kids for your wedding. I don't get it. People are so dense, no offense to her but no kids means no kids jeez. I wouldn't be subtle about it. Tell her not to spend money when grandparent childcare is free lol

Well I would just say then, "I'd hate for you to spend the extra money to fly him out here and then get childcare on top of that because we truly aren't having any children and can't make exceptions because that would be unfair to every other guest with children. I would entirely triple check grandparents can watch him to avoid the extra cost". I think this is nice lol for the dumb situation she is putting you in! I would wait til you're less heated. Unless she seemed as though buying a ticket was urgent.

I would just talk to her, and ask if you should look into daycare or nanny's in the area, since you aren't inviting children to your wedding.

I love this answer!!

What are the chances of that happening? Even so, I'd tell her she can buy the ticket for him if she chooses, but he will not be attending the wedding, so she'll have wasted a lot of money on plane tickets - his and hers.

Does this BM have a Plus 1? Because even if there was a "just in case," who's going to watch the child while she's in the wedding?

As far as at what point do you put your foot down and not care about looking like an asshole, you don't look like one, she does. Put your foot down now, so she can't claim she "told" you she was buying a ticket and your silence was taken as approval. She sounds like someone who will twist whatever way she has to to get her own way.

Were you able to get this situation with your bridesmaid resolved, Kristen? I'm sorry you have to deal with it!