Bridesmaid is ignoring me :(

Call her? I am confused by the "relatively close" comment. Why have someone you are only relatively close to in your wedding party?

This sounds pretty strange, when your MOH talked to her did she sound like anything was off or going on?

I would call her and explain your feelings. Ask her if there's something wrong and why she hasn't responded to you after explaining that you're hurt.

I have called @ali and i should clarify we are close we never did talk all the time but we have been best friends for years and she has always been there for me so of course i want her in my wedding its just strange for her to not really respond at all

Ummm I would send her a text stating that she is no longer in the bridal party. Im sorry to break it to you but sounds like she WAS close, but the feelings are not mutual. You don't want to have to worry about someone who doesn't want to partake in one of the biggest events of your life. Bridesmaids sign up for certain duties, its like an at will employment. You can discharge her of her duties if you have made substantial efforts to reach out, meet up, plan, etc and she continues to be unresponsive without just cause.

Im sure ppl here may advise you otherwise bc some seem to think that once you ask someone to be your bridesmaid, you are stuck with it. I personally don't engage in anything that would become overly burdensome without necessity aka begging someone to be your bridesmaid or friend for that matter.

Lastly, take this advice with a grain of salt. Im sure there is MORE to this story. Perhaps you two had a fall out, you hurt her feelings, etc and this is why she is not vibing with you. Depending on how much you want to salvage this friendship, you could consider trying to have some face-to-face interaction so that you two can communicate your feelings.

No @shannon she seems fine shes always posting stuff online and i have been trying to reach out to her just to hang out

Ok, thanks for clarifying that had me confused. I am sorry this is happening and can totally see how it would be frustrating.

Marlene, are you joking? Are you really recommending that people treat their nearest and dearest like shit?

Yea i could never kick her out i am hoping she will come around...i understand she probably has a lot going on but so does everyone else and i see no reason why she would be mad...we hung out back in november and had a great time!

I'd reach out once more to check in to make sure she's ok and honestly back off. Being blown off by somebody you care about twice, sucks.

Brittany, I'm sorry to hear that things aren't going well in the friendship right now. Maybe give her some time. Is it possible you've burned her out on wedding stuff?

Yea i know for sure shes ok which is the most important thing and i havent texted or messaged her in a few days but it still hurts my feelings especially because i am going through such a rough time and could use someone to talk to and shes always been a great listener

@jacks i dont think so ive been pretty mellow about things and if i have i would like to apologize but its hard when she doesnt respond lol

@Jacks no I recommend she 1) figure out the underlying reason her friend is ignoring her 2) decide whether or not she wants to mend things & still have her in the bridal party. I did recommend she remove her from the bridal party IF necessary OP shouldn't spend all her energy on trying to fix things with someone who wants no fixing. I didn't tell her to treat her like shit. Please miss me with the bullshit & carry on.

That is strange that she would text the other friend back, but not you. Maybe she doesn't feel as close to you as she does your other friend? Or maybe she doesn't want to listen to your wedding issues. Either way, that's too bad she isn't there to support you. I would send a text asking specifically if there is anything that you did wrong, and ask if she just doesn't want to be in the wedding anymore. It's worth it to ask, so you aren't left in the dark. And if she keeps ignoring you after awhile, I would tell her that you only want reliable people in the wedding party that at least act like they care.

She doesnt even know my other friend that well...my MOH is planning my bachelorette and had texted her a question about it and she responded to her message. I told my MOH what was going on and she had told me that she had just heard from her. My friend is not one to hold a grudge and I have tried to talk to her about other things so i am not really sure...just going to give her space i guess and hope she reaches out soon

@Marlene....seriously?! You don't kick people out of your BP. Also what "duties" are you talking about?! The Bridal Party doesn't have duties. They just have to show at the wedding sober and in their dress.

OP, don't take Marlene's advice

You described her as your best friend. Is it p5 she's hurt she wasn't chosen as your MOH?

That's my first guess, the other is perhaps she's feeling some envy over your relationship status and just can't quite handle it right now, assuming she's unhappily single, and especially with V Day on the horizon.

Either way, let her know you're happy she seems to be doing ok, but you're worried about what her silence means for your friendship, and there's not much else you can do but wait it out.

I feel you here. One of my BMs is doing the same thing. I sent her a message to hang out and she won't respond. I haven't even asked her anything wedding related to burn her out on as someone said. I've sent one message asking her how easily it would be for her to request off or request a different shift or something so we can go look at bridesmaid dresses and she hasn't answered to that message either. It definitely sucks and if you figure out a way to make it better let me know!

Sounds like you need to make a phone call. Sometimes texting feelings can be miscommunicated too. I know that when I'm feeling down I prefer a phone call. Hope it all works out for you.