Bridesmaid is dropping out...

I guess just respect her "morals".

I would let her out. It is fine if she didn't want to go to the bridal shower or bachelorette party (although a shitty reason was given to shame everyone else), but if she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid, let her out. You can have an uneven party. It doesn't matter.

I'd just let her leave. She's made it clear to you that she doesn't want to be in your bridal party and she has the right to make that choice.

"I'm sorry you're dropping out! We can still have fun though with you attending the wedding as a guest! I hope to see you there and can't wait to celebrate with you!"

I can understand the shower and the long drive that's understandable....but what's immoral about a bridal shower? And why does she want to drop out? We need more information to help you.

She doesn't need to attend any pre-wedding parties, including your shower or bachelorette. That said, it doesn't look like there's anything for you to approach anymore. She's dropped out.

Just tell her you respect her decision and look forward to seeing her at the wedding as a guest.

Omg boo Facebook me I am going thru the exact situation ....I am not getting either becuz it's against her morals

If she wants out... Let her out

Thanks everyone! She wants out because the whole situation is making her uncomfortable. I guess it was weird because we are really close and her husband (best man) and kids are in the wedding so it was unexpected. She doesn't want to attend the bachelorette party because of the inappropriate things we do at them? I am having a low key one going out with just the bridesmaids.

Did you tell her that it was fine to not come to any of the pre wedding events? She's only required to show up in her dress soberish to wedding. You need to talk with her and let her know you don't have any expectations past that and if she still feels that way then she is more than welcome to come as a guest. Just make sure that you don't ruin this relationship as unlike if it was just a friend you could expect contact cut but with a sister in law you have to live with her in your life for a long time

What do you mean she won't give you a reason besides long drive for not coming to shower? She doesn't have to give you any reason. As to the bachelorette party, will there be stippers there? drinking? All she has to to be BM is show up, reasonably sober, in the dress. Of course, you can let her drop out, but if you are concerned about your relationship with your inlaws, I would just say no problem re party or shower.

I had a similar situation last week with my BM who was my "best friend." My motto? One man down doesn't stop the show... keep it moving!

Let her go.

Sounds like she didn't want to from the beginning. I'd let her out so then there's no more in needed drama.

Ugh why do people say yes?! Accept her coming as guest and don't let it ruin the relationship. Honestly with her whole family in the wedding I can't imagine how pricey that is.. maybe that has something to do with it.

I'd let her go and not sweat it. There could be a whole host of reasons as to why does not want to participate anymore. When you send out your invites to the wedding invite her as a guest (if you have not already done so).

@Jillian: We are paying for all the attire and accommodations for them Just a little disappointing.

She probably just doesn't like all the penis stuff. I understand that, I don't like any of that stuff either but whatever, don't take it personal and just let her do her thing

I can definitely see how that can be hurtful since you said you guys are close. As hurt as you may be, try not to let this ruin your relationship. You guys are going to be family now :/

You mentioned you guys are paying for all the attire? If you're weddings in July, I'm assuming you already ordered her dress. Now that part I think is rather shitty. Maybe she'll come around...

Let it go. She shows up good. If not....oh well.

Tell her your disappointed and will respect her decision. She can enjoy it as a guest. Try not to take it personally. This is about her and not you or anything you've done