Bridesmaid in another state.

One of my bridesmaids lives in GA, I am in South FL, and my MOH lives in Tampa. It should be fine if they really want to be a part of it.

Of my 4 bridesmaids, only one lives in the same area... and she is so busy I see her less often than the out of state bridesmaids. I don't expect I'll have any type of shower because everyone (friends and family) live so far away, but i know without a doubt that they will be there standing next to me on my big day. We all communicate via group texts, which has helped with 1) introducing everyone and 2) keeping up communication.

Is there any particular reason that you don't believe an OOT bridesmaid would work? Do you have specific time obligations for them?

Luckily all of my bridesmaids are in CA, but if there had been someone out of state I would still ask them if I felt a close enough connection!

I'm a BM in a wedding next summer in Wales & it's looking like it's going to cost at least 4 grand for everything she wants us to do!

None of my BMs lived in the state where we got married (DE). Only one GM lived in DE. My BMs lived in PA, NY, TX, and AZ. DH's GM (aside from the DE one), lived in NM, OK, and WA. DH and I live in AZ. It worked out.

All you can do is ask if she'd like to be a BM. Leave it up to her to tell you whether she can do it. Since she's already indicated that she intends to travel to your wedding, though, it would seem like she will likely not have a problem with making the trip and the only concern would be whether or not she wants to have to get the BM dress.

I wouldn't pressure her to feel like she has to attend pre-wedding events. Really, none of your BMs are required to attend showers and bachelorette parties, regardless of whether they live in or out of town. But it won't hurt to emphasize that you only expect her to come out the weekend of the wedding.

We didn't have any issues with long distance dress shopping. I picked a dress designer that everyone was comfortable with and made sure there were stores in each of their cities that carried that designer. They all went to try on and order dresses when it was convenient for them. No big deal.

All 5 of my bridesmaids lived out of state.

I'm a bridesmaid in another state it's for one of my best friends so she knew I would say yes but then totally explained how she understands that I won't be able to make things like the shower & bachelorette. She just really wants me to be up there by her side on her big day! Not having the extra pressure to fly back for everything makes it a lot easier to do!

@ Isobel wales as in the U.K.? Is she from there? If she is at least then you shouldn't have to pay for the dress and all of that.

Basically none of our bridal party lived in the state where we got married. We live in Florida, got married in Oklahoma, and our bridal party was in Texas, Mississippi, Massachusetts, South Carolina, Nevada, and Minnesota. Only 2 GMs lived in OK.

We didn't have any issues. We paid for the dresses/GM outfits (kilts) as a gesture and to help keep their costs down, but you don't have to.

It doesn't matter where they are located. I'm in Portland (OR), and my MOH lives in Rhode Island. It was irrelevant.

2 out of 3 of my BM live out of state.

Hi fellow MD girl!!

Nearly all of my BM were out of state: Virginia (so not too far) and New York, specifically. I was MOH in a wedding that was in New Hampshire. It doesn't hurt to ask her, and to also mention that you understand if its too much money.

Keep in mind she may not be able to travel up for dress shopping (you'll probably need to do that online) or pre-wedding events like bridal shower or bachelorette party, but that's okay!

My MoH is in the same city, but my other bridesmaids are in different states (granted, one of said states is part of the same metro area). Go ahead and ask your dearest but not nearest; they'll understand the financial commitments involved with travel. Keep in mind though that they might not be able to attend all of your pre-wedding events. My furthest-flung bridesmaid is flying in this weekend for my bachelorette and came up in Feb for gown shopping; she incredibly rocks.

Four of my bridesmaids live in a different state than I do and one lives in a completely different country! So far everything has worked out just fine! Some of them won't be able to attend the pre-wedding stuff like the bachelorette party or bridal shower, which I am completely okay with! As long as they get to be there on the big day and stand by me, that's all I care about!

I have bridesmaids all over the US, I even have one that just moved to Thailand. As long as she is willing to travel for your wedding you should be fine. For the dresses I chose a color, fabric and lenght from David's Bridal, they can just visit their local DB or order online. Good luck!

Yap. 2/3 are out of state.

I live in AZ. My wedding will be here. All my maids live in IL. I'm sad that I don't have them here for certain planning things (as I helped 2 of them plan) but it is what it is. Hasn't been an issue for me. I would never expect them to fly out here to help with anything.

I live In MA and a BM lives in South Carolina . She's my cousin. She's texting all the other girls and helping as she can. She's going to help thenm with the bridal shower but won't be able to make. She will be able to make the bachelorette party though.

I live in Florida, getting married in SC. 2 bridesmaids in San Diego, 2 in Virginia, 1 in S Korea. I haven't had any issues. For dresses, I picked a brand, color, length and material. They all went to stores in their area (the one that lives in Korea previously lived in Texas and recently moved to Korea) and picked their dresses and ordered from their local stores. The VA bridesmaids are my sisters and they came to my shower hosted by my aunts in SC but the others didn't come. I think it's pretty common for people to have friends spread out across the country.

4/7 of my BP is in another state. They arranged it for the shower and bach party to happen the same day since being altogether is most important. I gave them a style dress and colors that I preferred. I'm being pretty easy going about all those details bc already they're shelling out money to travel here, twice. It'll work out just keep in mind the extra costs incurred for traveling.

All of my bridesmaids are very close by however I have been a bridesmaid who was the one that lived far from where the bride was and every time it was awful! The first bride who was supposed to be a very good friend was not so nice to me or considerate of the fact that I lived so far away so I was not able to help out as others were around her. The other was a little better in behavior however she did not consider how costly it was for each of us. We didn't even get welcome bags or anything. It has just been a hot mess each time. The next time I'll just be the guest and say no to being in the wedding.