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Bridesmaid Having Baby

Suzie, on October 29, 2019 at 5:42 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 24

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I just found out my childhood best friend who is one of my two bridesmaids is pregnant and due in May. It’s not a total surprise as I knew she was trying, but it does leave her with a 5 month old baby that she’ll presumably need to bring to the October wedding (which will otherwise be completely baby/child free).

What are some things I can expect? Is there anything I can do to make things easier on her? Her husband and mother will both be attending, so she’ll have some back up during the ceremony. I just know nothing about babies (and I’m not a baby person) so I’m not sure how to navigate this situation.

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Latest activity by Traci, on December 15, 2019 at 2:06 PM

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Lauren · on October 29, 2019 at 5:59 PM
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I'm not a mom either so I'm not sure, but I love that you are trying to make it easier for her! My suggestion would be to just ask her what she needs that day , that's what I would do 😊
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Alyssa · on October 29, 2019 at 6:00 PM
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Offer to hire a babysitter so that you get the baby free wedding you want.
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Caytlyn · on October 29, 2019 at 6:08 PM
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Try to make sure there is a private area where she can feed the baby. She may also need a refrigerator or cooler to store breast milk.
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Lady · on October 29, 2019 at 6:34 PM
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Just make sure she has access to a room to feed baby or pump. Glad you're trying to make her comfortable.
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Suzie · on October 29, 2019 at 7:06 PM
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I already planned to pay for a sitter for her 5 year old, I just wasn’t sure if 5 month old babies could be separated from their mother or if I’d be an inconsiderate ass for even suggesting it...
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Alyssa · on October 29, 2019 at 7:11 PM
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I would talk to her about it. Likelihood is that she will want a break from baby to enjoy your wedding! She will probably pop in to nurse or say hi (understandable) but moms of new babies need a break and this is a great opportunity to give her one.
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Suzie · on October 29, 2019 at 9:34 PM
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Yes, this! Talk with her now and see how she feels about it. Good to plan around it now!
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Stefanie · on October 29, 2019 at 11:11 PM
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This is so true! I don’t think she’d feel offended by it and you can always try
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Naikesha · on October 30, 2019 at 5:00 AM
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I am a mom and this would mean the world to me if a friend did that! How very kind and considerate you are!
I would talk to her outside of maybe needing a changing room/place to feed the baby her mom and husband should be all the support she needs.
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null · on October 30, 2019 at 8:28 AM
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I agree with PP's, try to find somewhere private where she can feed the baby or a cool place (a cooler if there's no fridge) to store milk if she doesn't plan on nursing.
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Jill · on October 30, 2019 at 8:30 AM
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Chances are a new mom isn't going to leave a newborn with a random person they have never met. I know I wouldn't.
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Alyssa · on October 30, 2019 at 8:37 AM
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5 months isn’t a newborn. Up to about 6-8 weeks is considered newborn. A qualified, vetted babysitter is someone I’m sure mom could feel comfortable with.
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Jill · on October 30, 2019 at 8:40 AM
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Nope ....I still wouldn't leave my infant if we are going to get technical with a person I've never met vetted or not.
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Alyssa · on October 30, 2019 at 8:42 AM
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That’s your decision-in this case the bride is going out of her way to make her bridesmaid comfortable so she can have a child free wedding which is important to the bride.
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Catherine · on October 30, 2019 at 9:49 AM
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Yes!! i agree with alyssa on this one. TRUST me she will enjoy a break lol
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Millicent · on October 30, 2019 at 10:05 AM
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She might be alright leaving the baby with a babysitter for a while and perhaps would appreciate some time to enjoy the wedding. Just be mindful with things like dress fittings and all the bridal/bachelorette events, that she may not be able to attend at a certain time due to her pregnancy.
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Kendra · on October 30, 2019 at 10:32 AM
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I am getting married in a month. I am also a mom to a now 10 month old. Talk to her to see if she is comfortable with the baby staying with dad for the ceremony and pictures. She may want a sitter for the baby anyways to get a break. I know I was needing a night out after 4 months.
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MrsD · on October 30, 2019 at 12:36 PM
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Maybe plan on inviting her parents or her siblings, so her husband will have help with the baby that weekend? Also somewhere for her to nurse if needed (besides a bathroom - maybe a bridal suite) would be great!
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Jennifer · on October 30, 2019 at 2:24 PM
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That is so sweet! Some brides on here flip out about having a newborn at their wedding. You seem like a kindhearted person to care so much for your friend! I agree with everything PPs are saying. Maybe along with her bridesmaid gift you could a little present to the baby for the wedding (like a blanket in the wedding colors). Best of luck planning!
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Jolie · on October 31, 2019 at 10:24 AM
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I agree with this. And having the baby and her other 5 year old together with the same babysitter seems fine. If she is opposed to the baby being with a babysitter there is always the other grandparents or family members to watch the baby.
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