Bridesmaid flaking? Idk...

I've also volunteered to help bridesmaids with cost of dresses ($50) so money surely isn't the issue? I just don't know when to start being worried about her flaking..

I would reach out to your friend and not talk about the wedding. Make sure everything is ok with her. Maybe she is going through a tough time and needs someone to talk to. Or maybe she is going through something she doesn't want to talk about. Either way, be a good friend. Call and talk. Let her knownyou just want to catch up and see how everything's going with her. Don't talk about the wedding.

Good idea Nicole. Before the party she kept saying she wanted to get together & I kept trying to get up with her but she always was busy. She kinda low key hurt my feelings because 3 days after the party she went for a week to the beach with another friend! Maybe I'm being a child but that just hurt to cancel on plans you already had with me for my wedding to go somewhere else with another friend! But oh well! I'll see if she wants to come over for wine and netflix!

I was going to make the same suggestion Nicole did.

Just be a friend. Forget the wedding talk and just hang out. Make sure your friendship stays intact. After you hang out, you may get a better feel of the situation. Maybe she doesn't really want to be involved as a BM but felt obligated. Idk.

Maybe she's jealous you're getting married and she's not? Sadly, some woman never grow up. Just try talking to her.

I'm messaging her now to see if she wants to come over to have a netflix and wine night. She's being pretty short but hopefully I can convince her to come over.

I haven't done anything I can think of right off hand I've done to upset her.. She was the 4th person I told when I got engaged! We had been very good friends before the party then things just fell off :/

Sounds like something is going on. Agree with pp to reach out and not about the wedding

Yes definitely reach out. Hopefully things are okay

I hate to say it, but I saw the same thing in a wedding I was in where the bridesmaid didn't show up to the bachelorette party or the shower or anything for that matter. She never called for the bridal shower, either.

And I really hate to say this, but some people just suck. Sometimes, nothing is going on at all with them and they just flat out don't care. Please do reach out and make sure everything is going okay with her, but also remember, if she's still short with you, she may just be unsupportive and doesn't care. I hope everything gets better for you!

Just because u offered to help w the bridesmaid dress doesn't mean she's comfortable accepting your help.

She might not have the money or has shit going on as well.

Hope it gets resolved! Plus, some people have trouble admitting money troubles or she may not want to drag you down right now with personal stuff. Best of luck!

If she does bail. Have the guys enter with the groom. They are already up front. The girls walk before you.

That's what I'm doing for my wedding.

I think you should probably talk with her face to face...

Everyone has a lot going on in their lives. I hope talking to her goes well. Good luck, OP.

I hope everything works out. I hate to say this, but don't expect much from her. Whether she is going through a tough time or just low-key hating prepare to move on. It's your day not hers. Good luck!

I texted and asked what she was doing, how her day was, ect... She was responding short messages until I asked if we could get together. Haven't heard from her since.

I guess I'm just going to let her do her thing. I find it pretty petty to not even let me know why you are giving me the cold shoulder but I guess yall(commenters) are right..some women don't grow up.

If she doesn't show up I suppose I'll take my loss on her personalized gifts and just have two girls walk with two guys each

I would do what Christina said, that's what i did and prefer it.

It sucks but sounds like shes got something going on or is upset about something. Anything else happen?

I second what @Christina R said

Nothing has happened that I know of personally.

She started hanging out with a new friend (someone I've never met in my life. Never even heard of her.. so it's not like this woman has problems with me) and every since she has just been distant to me. I'm not sure. I try to be a good friend to everyone. Shortly after asking her to be my BM she was constantly wanting to do stuff to help and kept volunteering to help.. & I would let her do whatever she wanted to do because I enjoyed spending time with her and needed the help anyways. I never asked anything once ever of her. I don't know. I guess this new friend is just taking alot of her time up.

Sounds like I'm still in high school *insert awkward chuckle* .

How did everyone walk out? All the weddings I've attended guys and girls couple up and walk together! I'm super interested to hear how yall did it