Bridesmaid Financial Problems

"Personally I feel like she should have booked the flight over a month ago"

I am confused by that phrase?! If she doesn't have the money now, did she back then? You also say your bachelorette party has been planned a little over a month now .. I'm sorry, I can't speak for everyone, but for the average Joe Shmoe (like myself) a little over a month seems like a very little bit of time to pull that much money together for this party .. especially taking into consideration that each girl would have to contribute around $100 EACH to help her pay for her flight. Was each flight around that much money? That also does not include the other expenses that come along with a vacay.

ETA:words

Are you serious? You make me sound like Im the worst friend in the world & out to get her...Never once did I say she wasnt good enough for not attending. I would completely understand if she couldnt attend. I just really wanted her to attend. The bridesmaid reached out to my MOH today to tell her she couldnt go unless she received some financial support. So technically this bridesmaids asked for some financial help. Thats when my MOH reached out to all of us about helping her out.

It sounds like this bridesmaid just simply can't make. Let it go and don't make her feel bad about it.

Well this is obviously going no where, thanks for the people that gave good advice! I will definitely just plan something with her soon for the two of us! Im not going to push the situation and just let it be.

My sister is not attending my out of town Bachelorette because she doesn't want to pay for it ...that was the end of the discussion no one knows and its really not a big deal

Personally, I would not push the situation w/ this bridesmaid. If i couldn't afford to go I wouldn't feel comfortable for the bride and MOH covering all or part of my trip. If i were u I would drop it and try to plan the Bridal Shower around her schedule so she doesn't miss that.

Personally I'm not a fan of the destination bachelorette parties. I'm a bm in one of my very best friends upcoming wedding and the bomb was just dropped on me today that she too is having a destination bach party. The comment made was similar to what you said, "I understand if you (anyone of the bm's) can't make it due to finances." While this is all fine and good that it is not required it's still a shitty position to put a friend in. If she's anything like me then she probably feels like she's between a rock and a hard place. It's like you don't want to miss it because it's your close friend but then you just can't swing the money part of it. The way I think about it from a brides perspective is that I chose my bridal party because they are the closest to me therefore I would want all of them to participate in those events therefore wouldn't plan such a party knowing that my whole crew wouldn't be able to join. If it came down to a destination bach party with half of my bridal party or a local bach party will all of them I'd choose the local option because having all of my friends present and having that experience with ALL of them is what would take precedence

I'm sorry but if she did not have the money a month ago she should of told you then. It would of made things go a lot smoother. But I feel when any kind of travel involved you have to check in more with people - you don't know what's going on in their lives. Bills , problems or just really doesn't want to go. Don't stress over this - you will have many other stresses to deal with .

Sounds like you made the right choice, OP. Let it go and it'll be fine.