Bridesmaid due to give birth on wedding date. Need advice!

I say let her choose. She must really care about your big day to still want to participate. If she cant make it last minute oh well.

Let her decide what she's comfortable with. If she is game, I say go for it! She'll be able to do all the pre-wedding stuff with you as a bridesmaid, which I know you will enjoy. She won't show up if she is in labor, and you should be prepared for that. I was my mother's first child, and was born 10 days late. Maybe her baby will be late too

I would let her make sure the dress she gets will fit her! And possibly have a cousin or friend in mind ready to stand in for her if needed

All such great advice! I will encourage her to make the best decision for her and her baby. Like I told her, I can't just replace her as a BM. I would love for her to be there and I'll definitely be supportive. If I have an odd number of BM v GM then that'll be okay.

Definitely, whatever she is comfortable with. Its great that she still wants to stand up there with you!

I read a great article last year about a MOH who went into labor at her best friend's wedding. She went to the hospital and after the wedding the bride and groom went and visited her there (still dressed up).

Also, my first baby was born 8 days after my due date and she may have stayed longer if the dr hadn't decided it was time for her to be born. So there is always the possibility that the baby won't be born until after your wedding!

@jacqui76 I've always thought about that and like many others said too, the first baby is always late

Do not kick her out.... if it comes time and she decides she can't last minute, that should be ok because obviously she has a pretty good excuse. My BM is due 3 weeks before my wedding which happens to be her sister's wedding day. She was immediately kicked out of the wedding - sister didn't even ask, just said "by the way so and so will be taking your place since you probably won't even be there...." obviously she was (and still is) very hurt. I would just say unless she doesn't want to, plan on her being there/being in the wedding. Let her make that choice.

@dana wow. That seems almost heartless for that sister to say that. Nvm that - I would hate for us to have bad blood over something like my wedding party. I will plan on her being there and in the wedding as well as include her in everything I can.

As almost all of the pp's have, let her make the decision. There's so many different things that can cause bridesmaids to not make it the day of, so enjoy the time leading up to the wedding and if she isn't feeling up to it at any point/day of, that's that. I was recently at a wedding that one of the bridesmaids couldn't attend because her child was in the hospital. No one could've predicted that was going to happen and life continued.

Let her decide, she'll know her limitations (if any) closer to date, if shee can't make it then she can't make it.

I imagine she's not going to know how she's going to feel the day of the wedding. But I dont see what would be the problem if she did have to drop out at the last minute. I personally don't think bridal parties have to be an even number. Dont spend too much time worrying about. You can't plan everything right down to the letter.

Soontobemrs - her sister is the definition of bridezilla....she's also claiming my friend got pregnant on purpose to take away from her wedding (mind you, she only has one ovary and PCOS so her dr. Wasn't even she she would EVER get pregnant). Like are you kidding!? Show some excitement for your miracle niece/nephew. She's also demanding that she wait to have a baby shower because it'll tap people out for gifts before her wedding. Ugh this girl......