Bridesmaid dropping out

You really shouldn't replace her when/if she drops out. The friend from out of state will not feel as important. Plus, she would have to rush everything. You can be one short, you will be fine!

The problem is that I have a small bridal party to begin with... Just 3. My best friend from another state, and 2 in-state friends.

The replacement isn't friends with the existing bridal party. I thought of her as a replacement because we've been friends for 15 years, she's reliable and well, if she wasn't out of state she'd probably have been in the party to begin with

I'm trying to handle the girl who is thinking of dropping out as best I can- like I'm giving her time to decide, but she can't leave me hanging forever.

I also want to respect the drop out girls situation and would not ask anyone to take her place who is a friend or acquaintance of hers.

I'd also pay for the replacement girls dress and shoes (and hair and makeup)

She needs to drop out of a wedding thats 2 months away because her dog passed?

I feel like this can't be the whole story. Realistically... she doesnt have to 'deal' with your wedding. Are your girls doing a lot? If you still want her in your bridal party, let her know that all she has to do is show up that day, get her dress on, and stand up there with you as a friend. Let her know that it is still her choice. Being a bridesmaid shouldn't be stressful.

What does she think she can't handle?

Buffets are ghetto, but replacement bridesmaids are a-ok?

Good luck, I had a BM drop out luckily it was before we ordered dresses and in enough time before the wedding

She has a lot of emotional problems on top of that too, just in general.

She hasn't had to do much for the wedding other than buying a $100 dress and a pair of shoes.

My mother paid for the shower, I am paying for their hotel the night before the wedding as well as hair/makeup.

Yeah-all she has to do at this point is just show up!

...my MOH did stress her out a lot with the shower- not communicating what was needed etc, but that ship has sailed- shower was this past weekend.

Well then why does she think there is anything to "handle"? Let her know she just has to show up. If she still doesn't want to be in the bridal party... something else is going on, and it ain't the dog.

That's what me and my other bridesmaid can't figure out. One of my other ones is very good friends with her too. We are sort of like this trio clique that hangs out all the time. Part of it we think is jealousy- she's almost 38 and very single. Her family is absent, and we just don't know.

The dog died in February, and we thought by now she'd be over it, but she has gotten much worse. Dog bowls are still out at her house, she cries incessantly. It's a mess.

Maybe the dog is an excuse and she doesn't want to be in your wedding?

^ Thats exactly what I;m thinking

Maybe she loves buffets and can't deal with the thought of not having one, at your wedding?

She might have hit one too many buffets, therefore growing out of her BM dress. Obesity epidemic and all...

If you want your out of state friend that you've known for 15 years to be a BM, then ask her now, don't wait until/if the other one "drops out". Just tell her you were debating on asking her cause she lives out of state. But if the only reason you want to ask her is to have an even bridal party , then don't ask her.

You can still order dresses from db if you need too.

Lol @Beach Babe and @Kristy y'all are too much! I'm laughing though. Karen, just ask her straight up and see if she wants to be in your wedding or not. It's coming up quickly!

Have you ever lost a dog? No? Cause I still think about the dog I had to put down in the 7th grade. I would be a mess if my current dog died but then again I would use that excuse to get out of your wedding too.

You should not replace her at all. That is rude to her and rude to the replacement. maybe she just is tired of dealing with your MOH and has had it? There is still a bach party to go and the wedding. If MOH stressed her out so much for the shower maybe she just doesn't want to deal with her.

DO NOT REPLACE YOUR BRIDESMAID! Yes I am yelling. The old BM will be really hurt like this, and the new BM will know she is a replacement. These are supposed to be your nearest and dearest, not your props. If your BM drops out of her own accord (not sure if thats the case since you gave her a timeline to decide), have uneven parties.

Do not replace. Just have 2 bridesmaid. It's not a big deal.