Bridesmaid driving me crazy! :(

Basically I am crushed and upset. She even told me she dosen't have time to plan my bachelorette. Anyways - just need some perspective.

Well I am not sure how good of a friend she has been to you before this instance, but is she the kind of friend you can be completely honest with? Maybe you should ask her if something is bothering her. It just sounds like there is something going on with her that she is not telling you, like maybe some jealous feelings or something. I don't know I could be wrong but I don't know how else to explain her having different problems with everything you say. I hope it works out for you though!

My MOH, for all that she doesn't know what she's doing, would never go against what I asked her to do as MOH. I agree, you should be honest if you can about what's going on from your side.

You definitely need to go to lunch or dinner or out for drinks with her and have a talk. Ask her how school is going and if she's overwhelmed and ask her, her honest opinion on your wedding and if it's overwhelming her? Tell her how much she means to you and how you really need her love and support right now. Sometimes a good heart to heart makes everything better

I agree, I think that you need to communicate your fears/issues with her. I sometimes have a hard time bringing stuff up, but when I do, addressing the problem is the best thing to do!

I think it's really great that you have a friend who was honest enough to assess her own life and be willing to admit she doesn't have the time to be MOH. I'm sure there are plenty of ladies who got stuck with someone who was unwilling to do anything as MOH, and wished that their friends would have had the guts to be honest from the get-go.

That being said, I agree that a good check-in is in order. Just because she doesn't have time to be MOH, doesn't mean she doesn't want to be involved. I'm a MOH for my best, best friend's wedding this Oct, but we now live in separate states and it KILLS me whenever I hear about a decision that's been made that I didn't know about. Not because I'm mad or trying to cause drama, but I would just really love to be able to support my bestie more. It sounds to me like your friend feels left out. Maybe even trying to take an extra step to call her with things like "I think I found the BM shoes" vs. an email declaring what the shoes are, would help!

I agree with Ms Rose above. I think you should voice your concerns with her, I don't know how the shoes convo went about but did you pick the size as well (if that's the case I can see why she said it won't fit her after all she'd know her shoe size better than you) and as for the hair and make up, I could also understand her wanting to do it at a salon, some people have their own stylist and are uncomfortable having anyone else touch their face or hair (if that's the case I understand)..

With all that being said, you should have a talk to her soon since your wedding is not too far away so you both can be on the same page. Good luck