Bridesmaid dresses same or mixed?

Another thing you can consider is having them all get an infinity dress where they can tie it in different ways. but i do think it would be nice to let them decide on their own gowns. azazie would be a great option for this to dictate the color and length and just let them decide the style on their own. i was afraid it would look bad too in terms of clashing - i let my bridal party pick their gowns but i only said "light pink" so all their pinks were different too - so that in itself gave me a little bit of worry at the off chance that it may all clash but luckily in my photos it actually all looked like it was almost the same color!

I've included my MoH and bridesmaids in the whole process, had them agree on where to order and got everyone set on going with black to keep it simple instead of the red I was originally looking at, but let them chose the style that best suits them. I really want them to be comfortable in what they're wearing and hope that by going with black instead of the red, they may actually get to wear it more than once for a fancy night out with their husbands or something. They are all ordering from www.dressfirst.com (we all hate shopping LOL would rather take measurements at home and see an alterations specialist later).

There's an article on this site, I think it said "29 bridesmaids dress combinations" or something like that. You may find inspiration there!

Maybe this can help?

I was so set on having everyone in the same dress and it turned out to be a nightmare so I if I could go back and do it again I would pick a color, length and fabric and let them pick their own style. A week before the wedding, my sister who was my maid of honor told my mom she hated the dress and wouldn't wear it. She had been with me when I picked out the dress so why she didn't tell me that she hated it to begin with I don't know. My mom told me what my sister said because she didn't want me to be blindsided by my sister. My sister later messaged me that she hates the dress. She waited until the last minute to have it altered and she hated how it looked on her. She said she would either 1. wear the dress, but she didn't want to be in photos and she was going to change after the ceremony or 2. get a different dress. It wasn't an option for her not to be in photos so I ended up going 5 days prior to my wedding and purchasing a dress in her size in the same exact color as the original dress. I had it shipped overnight to her house. Once she got it, she went to the seamstress who altered the original dress and she was able to alter the new dress overnight. Then on the way to our rehearsal dinner, my sister ended up burning the bottom of the new dress when she attempted to throw a cigarette out the window. My sister-in-law helped her pin the bottom of the dress to hide the burn mark on the dress. No one told me until after the wedding that my sister burnt the dress. The seamstress is actually the one that told me because she messaged me to see how the wedding went and she didn't realize my sister didn't tell me. My sister had called the seamstress right after she realized the cigarette landed on the dress, but because it was the night before the wedding there wasn't much the seamstress could do.

The rest of my wedding went pretty well It was definitely not something I would wish any bride would have to deal with. Now I don't even talk to my sister, but that's not because of the wedding. She is just a very difficult person and has always been. I should've known it wouldn't be any different with my wedding, but I guess I had hoped she would have been able to be agreeable for one day.

I personally prefer mixed because even if everyone was the same size people still look better in different things. And since you mentioned you have multiple sizes in your group it is easier to find something in a particular color family rather than matchy matchy identical dresses. I've been in weddings before that had the same dress and some of the dresses looked hideous on certain body styles. The last one I was in 2 of the girls were like a size 6 and me and another girl were plus sized. The dress the bride chose looked ok on the plus sized side because we were similarly built, but the 2 smaller girls were built pretty different-one was wider across the shoulders and narrow every where else and the other had hips and a booty and a narrow top half. It looked rather awkward in our (the bridal party) opinion but we wore what our bride wanted and we did it with a smile but it was an incredibly uncomfortable time (and you can tell in the pictures...).

My girls were told get a navy blue dress. Whatever they feel comfortable in. My girls aren't cookie cutters or decorations...so mixed styles lets my girls actually feel comfortable and confident in what they are wearing and shows their personality.

Edited to add...you can always do a different color for the MOH or even a pattern and have the others in a solid color or something like that to make her stand out and be different.

I picked a color and 6/7 dresses that I liked (all the same length and fabric) and let them pick - I just asked that they all be the same or all be different (I only had three girls, so I didn't want two the same and one different)

Yeah it has been exhausting trying to please everyone to find the one dress to fit them all and I guess I was torn with how different their styles were so wasn't sure if they would come together but if they are comfortable I'm all for it. Thanks for putting things in perspective!

Yeah I agree. I was thinking either all the same or all different but because my MOH wants a different dress to stand out I think I have to do all different with her having off the shoulder and the others picking from a two strap or something.

I think that is what I am going to do. Good idea!