Bridesmaid Dress Issue

Just give her another month or so. Losing weight could be a sensitive subject to her. I would only start pushing at about 2 months, incase it needs to be altered

She has plenty of time to get it altered if your wedding is not until October. All my BMs took their dresses in last week for my september 2nd wedding - two received theirs back already and one will be getting hers back next week. So I would let her worry about that.

If she does not have the dress altered by her wedding you just let her know she will be an honored guest or if you are will you let her pick a similar dress that fits.

Don't panic yet. 3 months is plenty of time to continue losing weight. 5-10 lbs is already a good start! Even if she has to have it let out, or have a corset back put in, she has time for those alterations. Just be supportive of your friend

As someone who is on the larger regular size side (sometime plus size, especially in bridal wear), I feel like this might be because she doesn't want to disappoint you. You're the bride so I 100% understand that it is hard to change a vision, but perhaps take some pressure off her to lose weight. I would feel really bad if I was her like I was ruining everything (she might not, just how I would feel).

All I'm saying is really think if that pressure/have everyone find something new is worth it or can you find a dress similar enough that it could work? or as others have suggested, find a way to make it work with alterations.

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That's exactly the point - I don't want her to feel bad and I'm putting zero pressure on her... to the point where the couple times I have brought it up, she acts like she has completely forgotten about it. If anything I think I'm just a little nervous she will wait until it's too late to do anything about it (alterations, order a new dress, etc.)

As others have pointed out, it's early and I won't worry about it until a month or so before.

If I were her I'd feel really bad right now. Be a friend first and a bride second. Imagine what it would feel like to have this sort of pressure put on you by a friend. Do not keep asking her! Consider letting her wear another dress..

Can they add in a corset?

When I was in my MOH wedding we had the same issue with my dress the girls were too big for the dress I was able to find a matching fabric and add about 4 inches for the chest lol!

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What upsets me is I was fine with changing dresses, but she has waited until it's too late for others to get a different dress.

I have altered dresses the night before a wedding. Can she sew herself where she could fix it if needed?

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That's a great idea! As other's said, I will wait for a bit before bringing it up again and make this suggestion.

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Why would others have to get a different dress if theirs fit???

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I want them to match.

I feel really bad for her. As a larger girl, these situations happen and its sad it wasnt taken into consideration when choosing. Where did you order from? How small is it? They can only alter it so much, usually a size or two depending on the gown.

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Well if having them match is more important then your friend being in your wedding then i would bring this up now and say we are going to choose a new dress. Too much pressure on her.

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It was taken into consideration? When we realized it didn't fit, I instantly said "no problem, we can switch to a different store/dress." She told me no, that she would try to lose weight.

Where did you order them from?

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Idk to me I would have been super embarrassed if the rest of the bridal party was told "munchkin doesn't fit into hers and thats the largest size so we are returning them and finding something else" Not saying thats the way you meant it but it might have been how it made her feel.

so I do think you might want to consider that the next time you bring it up that she might just be embarrassed and feel bad. Overall you have two choices - leave it be for now, and address it later. She has time to get it altered, and if she doesn't she can still attend as a guest or let her know you would still like her to try to get it altered but you also are willing to put aside the need for matchy matchy so she can still be apart of our day and help her to find something similar that she feels comfortable in

I feel like if you ordered from a reputable site, she would have known the dress wasn’t going to fit before she even ordered it. It isn’t hard to take your own measurements and then compare them to a website. If you had a BM even on the potential cusp of not fitting into the largest size, why did you go with that dress/company?

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The bridesmaids were all kind of in charge of finding a dress they all liked and ordering. I didn't pick the dress or company just saw them after - I didn't ask if she took measurements or whatnot because after the fact, it didn't make a difference.

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Yeah. I would never want to make her feel bad about it and I would be fine with her wearing a different dress. I guess maybe she didn't want to inconvenience everyone by switching...who knows. If anything I just posted this to get some insight as to if/when I should even bring it up.