Bridesmaid cancels a couple of weeks before the wedding! VENT!!!

That is awful to send that in a text message! I wouldn't worry about her, you'll have a good time without her. You don't need her if she's going to be that way, but, I would call her and tell her how you feel.

One of the groomsmen cancelled *last* weekend. Mind you he’s had one year to get sized for his tuxedo, last week he told us he won’t have time (after knowing the date and times for over a year), invites went out a long time ago and so did save the dates. Um thanks. He can’t afford the tuxedo is really what it is, it’s $144 and I understand that but he took a 2 week AK trip and couldn’t tell us THEN? I’m only really mad because I ordered him a groomsmen glass engraved, and now we have some other dude taking his place. I hate wasting money on people who don’t deserve it.

Honest opinion-- that sucks, and if it happened to me, I would have to seriously evaluate my friendship with her. She could have said something a long time ago if she didn't think she would be able to afford it. The other thing is, if you are an adult, and you commit to something, you need to plan for it as best you can. Put aside money for the plane ticket. Research cheap flights. That being said, only you know this person, not us, and only you can judge whether or not you want to forgive her or this is worth losing a friendship over. I would definitely let her know (as nicely as possible) that you feel that this was inconsiderate of her. An actual conversation needs to happen so that you can state how you feel and she can maybe explain herself a little more. It might resolve things or at least make you feel like you can get past being annoyed with her.

If i wanted to be really passive aggressive I'd bill her for the expenses she cost you that are now being wasted. also i just read your second post. she is not handling this like an adult at all. i'd be very annoyed.

I'm so sorry. Things happen but the way she is communicating or rather NOT communicating is BS. I love texting but it makes life way too easy for cowards. She should have said something sooner.

Basically - everything that Lauren just said. Times ten.

I'd be incredibly annoyed and really angry that she couldn't be bothered to book a flight before now. I'd also be really pissed off that she all of the sudden can't afford it when she's had a year to plan.

Wedding planning has made me realize that most people suck. A lot. But, there's nothing we can do about it. If you squeeze an orange, orange juice will come out every time. People are like that. They can only give you what they have inside. Unfortunately, we often put too much hope in people we think will be there for us.

I've had some really REALLY shitty friend experiences over the course of the past 2 years so maybe I'm just extra bitter.

But, if she can't be bothered to be at your wedding, she doesn't seem like much of a friend.

Definitely talk to her and see if there's an underlying reason behind it all.