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Just Said Yes June 2017

Bridesmaid "breakup"

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Carrie, on February 28, 2017 at 7:46 PM

I asked my bridesmaids over a year ago, and all 5 were in board. In october, I asked that they get their dresses ordered by december, as the designer would take 4-6 months to ship, and I wanted to leave time for alterations. All but one BM ordered by November. I've asked this BM multiple times to order the dress, but every time she has a new excuse as to why the dress is not ordered. In January when I pushed the order thru for the other dresses, I was told the designer was shipping into May. How do I deal with this? I'm ready to tell her she's out, but want to make sure that's not totally unreasonable. I've communicated deadlines, and my wishes all along, and for four other people to do what I've asked without my holding their hands, makes me think it's not that difficult of a request. HELP!!!!!

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Rachel DellaPorte · on February 28, 2017 at 9:03 PM
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You leave her alone and don't become as annoying as bill collector calling at dinner time. She either gets the dress or she doesn't. Period. She hands you her resignation -- you DO NOT get to fire her. If she doesn't get it, then she's not a BM. Nobody, not a single person will care if she walks or doesn't. I know it's easy to look from the outside in, but maybe the mortgage/rent, utility bill, winter wear for her children, groceries, insurance, etc., took a front seat to a BM gown. Get it? If you're that concerned, buy it for her.

And why do I assume that this was a BM proposal with the silly boxes filled with dollar store merchandise and a whole lot of peer pressure?
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