Bridesmaid "breakup"

At least you didn't say you were going to fire her....

Did you ask her budget beforehand? Is she having financial trouble maybe?

I've offered to help her financially three times, no response

Don't kick her out, that is a potentially friendship ending move. She is an adult, let her handle this on her own since she has the necessary information to do so. She will either buy the dress, or she won't and in that case she can attend as a guest. However, I am wondering if it is a budget issue. Did you check in with your BMs about their budget before selecting the dress?

Have you talked to her about things outside the wedding?

1.) You asked to early.

2.) You can't kick her out. It's rude.

3.) Have you tried being her friend and asking how she is rather than just discussing wedding details? You don't know her financial situation. This could be a huge factor.

4.) Did you ask her for her budget before picking a dress?

Can you cover it for her and pay the cost?

It's not a difficult request at all. Perhaps she has fallen into a financial hardship? Maybe you should sit down with her and address your concerns.

This is why we recommend people to wait until about 6-8 months before the wedding to gather their bridal party. You can't kick her out of the bridal party, as that could be relationship-ending.

You need to have a face-to-face conversation with her about what's going on. She could be in financial stress or dealing with personal stuff. Always remember, you are a family member/friend first, and a bride second. Figure out what's going on and be a good friend.

Have a conversation with her about it bit don't make it completely about the wedding either. Maybe she's going through a rough time and doesn't want it to take excitement away from your wedding. Be aware if you remove her from your bridal party it may end the friendship as well.

Don't stress. If she doesn't get the dress, she attends as a guest.

I know it's frustrating. But you'll save yourself so much trouble if you just make it her problem and not yours.

If you ask her to step down as bridesmaid, be prepared that it could end the friendship. Have you talked to your friend about anything besides the wedding lately? Anyone who is not the bride gets burned out on wedding talk pretty quickly. She knows what dress to get and the date she is supposed to wear it. Don't micromanage the process.

Did you privately ask for her budget before hand? How much is the dress you picked out?

Don't over stress about the situation. It's in her hands now. You have other things to worry about then a bridesmaid dress.

Op, do you plan on coming back anytime soon? Or are you just planning on posting and ghosting?

It sounds like she is going through a rough time. I think maybe you should call her and maybe have a pizza night or something and talk about how she is feeling. You can offer to pay all you want but if she is still unwilling to get the dress, let her know that maybe it would be better to attend as a guest and that she will still be a very special part of your wedding day

Yup I agree with everyone else, reach out to her as a friend, talk about something besides the wedding, see where she's at. Worst comes to worse she doesn't get the dress and attends as a guest

I was in the same predicament! I have 5 girls and all but 1 ordered them in a timely fashion. And when she did order it, they had discontinued my color!! So before I flipped and went nuts, I called some other stores to see if they had any left over. They didn't have any in that color but did have them in another. It worked out because I now have 2 in the same color and 3 in the other color. ( my MOH was the diff color to begin with ) I couldn't be happier with how it all turned out!

I'm in the same boat. We are 3 months out and all my bridesmaids has their dresses instead of my MOH. She's 5 months pregnant now but saying she don't know if she will be able to even afford a dress at this time and bailed out of hosting my bridal shower my mom is helping put together. My mom asked her way before she got pregnant and she accepted but now her situation is up in the air at this time. I'm leaving it to her to make her own decision as to what she gonna do. But time is flying by. She call her and check in to make sure if her budget works. If not leave it to her to come tell you that she rather be a guest due to whatever the personal situation may be. Don't force to much. Just be ready for whatever the outcome is.

Drop it. If she doesn't have a dress to wear, that's on her, and she'll be attending as a guest.