Bridesmaid backed out

You don't have to have even parties. My advice would be not to add people you aren't actually close to to your BP just to have even sides.

It's okay to have an uneven number. But if it's something you really want you could offer to pay for you fsil's stuff she needs for the wedding.

@futuremrslove I can't afford it. They are in Texas and need a plane ticket up here for both of them which is $1,200.. I would if I could. :/

Ouch! Don't say you "scrounged up" bridesmaids. It makes it seem like you're someone you're probably not. If your future SIL backed out because of financial reasons with three months to go, please realize that she really held off as long as she could. My first thought would be that she tried and finally realized she had to do something that gave her stomach cramps (i.e., give you the bad news). I assume, by this point, she has ordered her dress. I'm just asking -- what other expenses is she expected to cover? Is there any way you or her parents could contribute?

If that's not a possibility, let her go with your blessing (she's humiliated. There's a reason they say, "It's more blessed to give than to receive". Sure it is. It's always a charge to be able to be the person that bails someone out of their situation). If you have an uneven bridal party, don't worry.

I would offer to pay for her lol but that's probably not the best advice out there

Maybe turn two of the groomsmen into ushers if you are concerned about having an uneven party. Men are usually laid back and won't mind the change.

Keep things the way they are. In 20 years when you look at your pictures you won't be worrying about the numbers, you will be excited about the faces.

If it's for financial reasons and she is family, why don't you try to fit her expenses in your budget? ETA: Numbers don't matter. She might also feel like she was just a "filler" because you could replace her with a nobody. You definitely don't want your FSIL as replaceable.

Don't demote your FH's GM just to make even sides!! (Bad advice). The sides don't need to be even and BM should not be replaced. The replacement will feel shitty that they were a second choice.

She backed out because she can't afford a plane ticket to the wedding?

Your sides don't have to match perfectly. I also had someone else back out for financial reasons. It's not a big deal. They only stand next to you for about 30 minutes. No one is gonna care that you have less people than your FH. Just have the people you want up there, don't add random people just to make the sides match.

Just have an uneven number, no problem with that. FH and I were going to do that until he decided not to ask someone to be a GM after all.

You continue on with the remaining bridal party.

Don't replace her, the person who is the "sub" will know that she wasn't first choice and that's unfair to her.

Just have an uneven bridal party - there's no issues with that; you can have one girl walk alone or two gals to one groomsmen.

Do about what? You can have uneven bridal parties.

And I agree with Centerpiece, "scrounged up" sounds like you went out and chose random people to fill "spots". These are supposed to be your closest people, not replaceable fillers.

So is your FSIL not coming to the wedding at all since she can't afford a plane ticket?

Also-like PPs said, no one will care that the number of people on either side of you during the ceremony isn't the same. And as for pictures later, a good photographer will know what to do with your uneven BP. Here are some examples. Wouldn't your rather be able to look back 10 years from now and know that people you chose still mean something to you instead of being just props to fill a certain number you think you needed?

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I had uneven #'s. I wouldn't dare replace or add someone just to keep the sides even.

As centerpieces pointed out, saying you "scrounged" up BM's is pretty rude. I would feel terrible if I found out I was only there to make your sides even. Being a BM can be expensive. I am sure that was just a poor choice of words.

You move on as planned. Uneven parties are the going trend these days. I was 2 short also and it worked perfectly. Dont add or replace to add bodies. These are people you want by your side from the beginning. Just have 2 girls walk with 2 guys each, it will be perfect!