Bridesmaid backed out due to financial reasons and I replaced her. Now she's mad at me! HELP!!!

If she wanted to add another bridesmaid, that is her decision and the hs friend would not have reason to be mad. OP said herself she replaced her bridesmaid and asked someone to 'fill in' for her though, which changes the story.

Let her be.....you didn't do anything wrong. She made the decision to back out, and after you were kind enough to offer to cover expenses. It doesn't sound like she was really up for being in the wedding. She may be a little jealous and having some issues with the entire wedding idea. And then in her mind, to be "replaced" is adding salt to the wound. You have enough on your plate to stress off. No matter what you do or how hard you try to please everyone, "SOMEONE" will not be happy. So let her be....invite her to the wedding, and be happy. In time, perhaps she'll get over it.

Not sure if I am repeating her as I didn't read all comments, but....

What did she expect you to do? Not ask anyone else? Maybe when she backed out, she didn't think you would find someone else to stand up there. I think she's being a bit immature and probably maybe even jealous. You wanted her and you asked her before anyone else in which she should be honored that she was one of the chosen out of all of your other friends. She was unable to be do it and had to back out. You even tried to help her with expenses - that is how bad you wanted her to be one of your BM and trust me, not many Brides would do that, they would just ask someone else.

Don't feel bad or guilty. This is not your fault.

Oh wow, I have got a former bridesmaid that did that to me as well ... she dropped out in February due to a pregnancy and figured she couldn't nor did she want to travel with a baby to the wedding ... she has not spoken to me in a long long time nor did I even receive an invite to her baby shower ... I replaced her with another close friend of mine and yup nadda ...

You have done nothing wrong. You offered to help her and she turned you down. Be thankful that she did not pull out days before your wedding. She has no right to be upset because if she knew that she could not been a part of your wedding, she should have told you so. I know that she has been friends with you since HS and have been a part of your life for years, but I would take this with a grain of salt and thank your other friend for agreeing to stand in for you. Continue to plan your wedding and put your friend getting upset behind you. Congratulations to you.

She is wrong. Try to forgive her. If she wont change her attitude, let her ~keep it movin!

In response to Tiff P.: Well, if I made a terrible move by replacing her, then so did she.

I cannot believe I had forgotten about this until now, but when she got married 3 years ago, she had asked me to be her MOH. I graciously accepted until my mom was in a horrible car accident which left her in a coma. Because my parents ran their own business, this left me supporting my entire family because my brother was going to school at that time. I had no choice but to step down as MOH and take care of my family. I would not have been able to handle the responsibilities as a MOH and it would not have been fair to her. She understood and asked me to be her bridesmaid. To be continued...

I told her I would try my best to be there for her. I worked 2 jobs to save up enough money to be in her wedding. (Please note, she required all of her BM to pay their whole way to her wedding, i.e. dresses, shoes, nails and hair to be done on wedding day, accommodations, food, airfare, gifts, etc.) After her wedding, she promised me that she would be in my wedding no matter what. Well, she is not coming and I'm ok with it. I'm sure deep down, she is truly sad that she can't be a part of my wedding, but she should be happy that someone else could be there for me on my wedding day. I'm pretty sure she is upset about being "replaced" because we were e-mailing back and forth for about a week regarding my wedding decor and her last e-mail read, "Oh no, did I ruin your bridal party set up by not coming?" I responded by telling her that one of my really good friends from college would be there instead. To be continued...

That was the last e-mail I had received from her and it has been 4 weeks already. I sent her a message asking her how she was doing and if she was enjoying her new job. I also mentioned if she was ok, because she went MIA after our e-mails about my wedding decor. Still nothing...until she wrote on my FB wall yesterday saying something like "Your wedding day is coming up!" Anyways, now that I recall being replaced by someone else as her MOH, she has no reason to be upset with me. She did the same thing to me. Not that two wrongs make a right, but you get the point. I do not like having my friends upset with me, but with my wedding so close, I just need to move on and focus on my big day! Thank you all for letting me vent and listening to me. I really do appreciate all of your feedback and advice. Best of luck to all the brides-to-be!

I can see if you did not offer to help, but for her to be upset and to stop talking to you is her loss. Finding out that she was replaced by someone else is also not your fault. If you wanted a certain amount of people in your wedding party it is not her place to be so upset.