Bridesmaid asked to be in another wedding on the same day.

Do neither. Let her choose the best route. You'll be busy and she's going to have to make some tough decisions. Let her.

Give her the option, but tread lightly. And let us know how it goes!

Yea I would have a convo with her. You don't want any last minute decisions of her dropping out really close to your wedding.

One of my maid of honor will actually be leaving my reception early to catch the very beginning of another friends wedding. She turned down a spot in the actually bridal party, because I had started planning something like 4 or 5 months before.

I just let it go. She asked and has done her best to balance both.

She needs to choose 1 or the other. Let her decide what she wants to do and don't hold anything against her.

She needs to be in one wedding or the other. Let her choose, and don't hold it against her.

Who says she has to choose?! (ok, Lucy and Annakay511 say that, granted) - she's not a personal slave.

I must agree with others-- you can't decide for another human being what she'll do.

Tell her to aleviate stress on you both she should pick in or the other. Nobody wants to worry about 2 time lines and photos during the others ceremony etc And don't be upset if she leaves your wedding and still be her friend.

She definitely needs to pick one wedding or the other to be in. I've seen people attend two weddings in one day, but definitely not be IN 2 in one day.

My engagement has been a long one (since Oct 2013), so my bridesmaid has been on board for a long time. The other bride asked her probably 3 months ago. My maid had assured me that she was not going to drop out of mine. I was okay with her leaving my reception to go to the other wedding for a while. I think it's just the hair and makeup thing that weirds me out. First, I don't want her to be late for pictures or have to wait for her to get on with the rest of the day. Second, I personally think it would be awkward to take time away from the other bride's party for her to get her hair done, likely before the other party so she could ensure being back on time for my events. I understand her need to celebrate for everyone, but I feel like there are better ways like partying it up at the bachelorette party and helping with her bridal shower. I don't think she knows how much goes into a wedding day.

I feel it would be easy to go to one of the weddings and have a drink and start talking and just never go back to the other one. Plus drinking and going back and forth could be dangerous. Without drinking it's 2 weddings to handle colors and dresses and cosmetic plus the time line and worrying about waiting for her at each location.

Hey date twin! I would try to have an honest conversation with her. If she really thinks that she can do both and really be there for both of you guys, then give her the benefit of the doubt and maybe she can pull a Katherine Heigl (ala 27 dresses), otherwise tell her she really needs to choose one or the other.

I think she needs to pick one. Honestly, it hurts, but it sounds like she'd rather be in the other wedding. You don't want someone in your BP that's rushing to another wedding. I wouldn't hold it against her. (If you're desperate for even sides, we can find a WW BM! I'll drive anywhere from CT to MD. About a street size 12. Haha)

So i take it that the other wedding is a good bit after yours since she is wanting to leave your reception to go to her wedding? I would say let her do it if that's what she wants. She can get her hair and makeup done with other bride and, depending on the time and distance between the two locations, that shouldn't be a huge deal. She can then come to be with you and be there in your wedding. Then she can head to the other bride's wedding later during your reception. Obviously this wouldn't work if both weddings were at the same time, but I think it's doable if the start times are a good bit apart and the locations are close. I think it would be kinda mean to make her choose one or the other though....either you or the other bride would be hurt/upset and it might really hurt your BM to have to make that decision and possibly damage a friendship. I don't know if that's much help, but that's all I have!

@FML, drive to OH and crash my wedding!!

@OP, I think you should tell her she should pick and that you won't be hurt if she chooses the other wedding

I think leaving your reception early might be okay but I'd say no to makeup and hair with the other bride. She should just be with you until part of the way through your reception then show up to the other one. Otherwise she'd be at wedding #2, then back to wedding #1, then back to wedding #2...sounds like too much work.

Paxton, Sorry you are in this situation. I have to say that I totally agree with JulieR that you should have an honest talk, etc.. with your friend. Maybe she would be able to balance both weddings, but you will never know until you talk to her. It would probably be better than keeping it to yourself and worrying about it. Anyway, Good luck and Best wishes !!!!