Bridesmaid and maid of honor duties

There are none except showing up relatively on time on the day of the wedding with the dress selected, and sober enough to walk down the aisle and stand there during the service. If they offer to do other things, that is nice, but you certainly do not assign them "duties."

None. If you need help I'd politely ask if they could do something for you or help you with something, other than that they aren't obligated to do anything.

Showing up on time wearing a dress I like

All i asked of my maid of honor & bridesmaids was to be available on the day pre-selected for dress shopping and dinner (paid for by me- to say thank you). but that's about it. just have fun and communicate all issues with me.

My MOH was a working mother of 4. It never crossed my mind to assign her any duties pertaining to my wedding.

Buy a dress and nothing else. Because they aren't my employees.

They were in charge of all DIY, they planned the bridal showers and bach party. I made them stuff envelopes, address invites, tally RSVPS, they made the favors, do the seating chart, pay for my hair and makeup. I know I am forgetting others but that's all I can remember.

I was sure to let them know the consequences if they didn't comply. I would highly suggest a contract.

That's what I thought!! I saw all these things on Pinterest about assigning roles and I was very confused. Thank you for the clarification!

None. They aren't even throwing me a shower or bachelorette. My other friends are doing it.

These were their duties: "Hey, Carolyn, Debbie, and Karen, how does next Tuesday sound for picking out gowns? We don't have to do the bridal salon thing -- let's save a few bucks and go to the mall and find a gown that comes in dusty rose and burgundy, okay? I'll pay for the hair wreaths? Cool?" That was it. There was no wedding shower and BP, and I couldn't have cared less. I wanted to get married, not celebrate my last night of freedom (which, in my opinion occurred when he slipped the diamond on my hand some 20 months earlier).

They looked gorgeous, pampered the hell out of me on the morning/afternoon of my wedding, and when those ladies walked down the aisle in preparation of ME, I was humbled and blessed. Their faces said it all.

I really believe that far too much of the wedding experience has been diminished by the constant, never-ending advertisements of penis accessory factories and the tagline of "you HAVE to do this, that, or the other expensive thing" in order for it to be real. I had wonderful, intimate times with my honor attendants, and I wouldn't change it for all of the Vegas parties in the world.

^ love that...

@Cristina I am conflicted. I am really glad you were appreciative and receptive of the feedback you were given but on the other hand I thought this was going to go south quickly and be my entertainment for the rest of the day and I feel robbed

Christina_ change your avatar so we can recognize you and stick around!!!

(I was kidding btw, lol)

I have to agree with Centerpiece even though Vegas is awesome! To go for a bachelorette party is way over the top. I did it once and it wasn't even fun plus it cost a fortune. I think it's best to keep things simple.

All I am asking is that they wear a dress (any dress they choose), be on time and mostly sober until after the ceremony and photos, and have a great time celebrating with me and FH.

I kid you not- once I was a bridesmaid and we went over to the bride's house the night before the rehearsal dinner to help with some last minute DIY stuff. We offered, so it was fine. But one of the tasks that she assigned us was writing thank-you notes for gifts she received at her shower. DON'T DO THAT!

I have an UO on long weekend bachelorette parties...I love them. I get to meet the other important people in my friend's life and a lot of the time, I make a new friend out of it. It's an excuse for a girl's vacation...actually it's an excuse for a vacation in general. For the bride, I think it's a chance for all of HER closest friends that maybe would have never gotten a chance to bond to become friends. I think my friends may have the UO as well because when I told them I was getting married the first thing they asked is where do I want to go for my bachelorette.

Show up with their dress. Laugh, eat, drunk, and have one hell of a great time!

To show up on my wedding day with that dress I pick and wear their hair up. That's it. I hear they have some things planned (bridal shower & bachelorette party) but it's not mandatory.

Oh, & twerk at the reception. *shakes ass uncontrollably*