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Marci
Dedicated October 2016

Bride's Position at the Altar HELP

Marci, on February 29, 2016 at 3:15 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 24

I would really like to hear everyone's advice or comments about having the bride standing on the right as opposed to the left. I hate my profile so I would at least want my best side which is my left side facing our guests. Any comment or advice is appreciated.

24 Comments

Latest activity by Sylvie Lansdowne, on March 1, 2016 at 1:16 PM
  • Courtney
    Super April 2016
    Courtney ·
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    Most people won't know what side is your good side and will think you look beautiful either way, so I wouldn't worry about that. Also, it's your wedding so you can stand on your head if you want!

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    I thought about this and then forgot all about it when the day arrived Smiley smile Courtney nailed it!

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  • Marci
    Dedicated October 2016
    Marci ·
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    Thanks!!

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  • OriginalKD
    Master December 2015
    OriginalKD ·
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    DH stood on the right, I stood on the left (with right side facing our witnesses).

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  • Bethyonce
    Master February 2015
    Bethyonce ·
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    Honestly, I don't think you'll even care when you are up there. You'll be looking straight ahead and not giving a crap about what your guests see.

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  • AMW
    Master September 2016
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    Supposedly, the only reason this is tradition in the first place is because the man needed to keep his sword-fighting hand free in case someone (the father) came to claim back the bride. Since I doubt your FH is kidnapping you and forcing you to marry, the side you stand on absolutely doesn't matter.

    Actually, if you read about the "old, new, borrowed, and blue" tradition, some of it is rather, er, creepy. The blue, for example, is supposed to be a pair of underwear that was worn by a woman who has born children already, so that the evil eye will be fooled and won't make the bride barren on her wedding day (at least in some histories, that's what it reads!).

    I don't think tradition needs to be followed just for traditions sake.

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  • Marci
    Dedicated October 2016
    Marci ·
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    I am honestly more worried about the pictures. I have a huge nose.

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  • LDwed
    Super April 2016
    LDwed ·
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    I'll be standing on the right side, I'm jewish and that's the norm. But if I wanted to stand on the left, I would stand on the left! I don't think it matters, but I'm sure your right side is just a beautiful as you left Smiley winking

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  • Marci
    Dedicated October 2016
    Marci ·
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    Shame on me for not knowing that as I am Jewish as well. We are incorporating the chuppah and breaking the glass but that's about it.

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  • Caroline
    VIP September 2016
    Caroline ·
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    Stand on whatever side makes you happy.

    AMW- I think you are going to end up giving me nightmares about that...Strange.

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  • AMW
    Master September 2016
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    @Caroline lol I'm sorry. I like to read the history of traditions and when I started reading about some of them I feel better about not conforming...I had no idea how some of them started and some are soooo strange!

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  • Future Mrs. R Perez
    Super July 2016
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    Wow...I never even thought of this... I just knew I would be standing there somewhere following the directions given in rehearsal...but come to think of it, I always feel most comfortable on the right side.

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  • BecomingBailey
    VIP August 2016
    BecomingBailey ·
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    I've been in the same situation. I HATE my right side. And yeah I'm superficial and don't want my guests looking at my ugly side haha but FH (Mr. Tradition) says no way he's standing on the right. So I just have to deal.

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  • FormerUser
    Master July 2015
    FormerUser ·
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    I stood on the left because that's my best side. *hairflip*

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  • Shelby
    Super December 2016
    Shelby ·
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    I was a MOH in a wedding where we stood on the right. I'm not sure of the reason why but it worked :-)

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  • jessica
    Expert April 2016
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    Im so glad I found this because I was going to ask it myself!! I have a cowlick/tiny bald spot so my hair (side pony) needs to be done on the left side which I want facing guests. This would mean I stand on the right side, still not sure about it though, maybe I will just get over it!

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    In the Jewish ceremony, the bride is on the right. It's only in the Christian tradition that the bride is on the left (and even then, the officiant may be flexible). If you're having a secular ceremony, you get to pick.

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  • Marci
    Dedicated October 2016
    Marci ·
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    Awesome responses everyone! I appreciate it!

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  • 2016beachwedding
    VIP October 2016
    2016beachwedding ·
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    Do whatever makes you feel more comfortable

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  • Celia Milton
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    I would say do what you want but I've only had one or two women stand on that side and even to me it felt a little strange. I can't imagine that one of your sides isn't as nice as the other!

    But do what you want!

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