Bride's Brother as Groomsman?

My brother is not a groomsmen, but I do have my FSIL in my bridal party. There are no real rules about having the bride's bothers/sisters or groom's brothers/sisters in the wedding. If he has others who he is closer with and would rather have standing up with him - he should have who he wants.

If your FH wants him as a groomsman it's definitely appropriate, I have been to a few weddings where the brides brother is a groomsman. If he doesn't than you can make your brother an Usher.

My FH is having one of my brothers as a groomsmen but not the other. I'm closer to that brother and don't really speak to the other. I don't think that he has to ask him. Especially if neither of you are close to him. I didn't ask FH's sister to be a BM because neither of us are close to her. I wouldn't feel obligated.

It's totally up to the groom. There is no obligation to include future siblings-in-law in the wedding party, although many do. But since neither of you are close to your brother, it's certainly not necessary.

I was going to say the EXACT same thing as JuneBride.

There are no rules that say that siblings have to be in the wedding party. Each person getting married should pick the people they want to stand up with them. If you're not close with your brother, then there's no reason to ask him to stand up with you.

If you WERE close with your brother and you wanted him in the wedding party, I'd suggest you ask him to be a bridesman. He should be on your side, after all--he's one of your people.

Thanks so much guys! Yeah, if we were closer maybe I would push the issue- you guys definitely helped me validate that he doesn't NEED to be included in it

Don't feel obligated to make someone a bridesmaid or groomsmen! In recent years I've been less close with my brother, and FH isn't close with him, so he's not a groomsmen, simple as that. I think it would have been more stressful to include him anyways.

In my opinion, yes. My brother is in mine. I would be heartbroken if I wasn't in my brothers wedding.

If he's not close to either of you, then he definitely doesn't have to be in the bridal party. You guys can pick who you want to be standing beside you, there are no rules on this.

My brother is not a groomsman and we are super close. He is escorting my mom done before the ceremony. He doesn't know my FH very well so it doesn't bother me that he doesn't want to be in it.

My brother is a groomsman and FH hardly knows him but we wanted him in the wedding.

No hard and fast rule that I'm aware of...my brother is a groomsmen, but he and I are very close, plus he and my fiance get along really well.

I have 3 brothers...none are groomsmen (mainly because I wanted a small bridal party and if we added them it would be 5&5). I am having my twin read during the ceremony and my other brother's will escort my mom & grandmother. All 3 are ushers.

My brother is a groomsman.. him and fh arent super close but me and my bro are really close! they get along well tho!

We included all of our siblings in the wedding party, and I wouldn't have it any other way.

I made my brother and brother in law bridesmaid men. I wanted them in the wedding

First, congrats on the engagement!

Second, in my wedding, my brother is going to be a groomsman. We wanted family to be part of the wedding party. My FSIL is also a bridesmaid.

Im not close with my brother and FH doesnt really even like him, so no, hes not a GM and was never even considered as one. FH's sister is my BM though. love her and although we arent super close cuz shes like 8 years younger, i'm still happy to have a little sister and wanted her to be a part of my wedding bc FH is so proud of her. plus one of my good friends got pregnant and lives out of state who was originally my BM so she cancelled and it was perfect for me to ask FH's sister. so i say go ahead and let it be FH's choice! i wouldnt want my brother there if it was awkward just bc etiquette says so.

It's your FH choice. If he already has a group that he wants to ask then that's fine. If he's not close with your brother he shouldn't feel obligated to ask him.