BRIDE is driving me crazy!!!!

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She's having another in town bachelorette party and I thought since I'm MOH I’d be planning this too but she’s already taken it upon herself to call and get prices for activities and such . I’m just feeling helpless. I could see if I wasn’t doing my part but I don’t even get a chance to plan anything. I’m lucky that I even get to do the Bridal shower without any of her opinions. How do I even approach her about this? She’s making feel like what we pick isn’t good enough and its making feel bad. I just honestly don’t want to plan anything anymore if she is going to be doing everything on her own. She only wants my help when it comes to cleaning damn wine bottles (part of the center pieces). Sorry every one having a venting moment.

Stop doing for her! She seems like a bridezilla! Tell her if she can`t step back and let you do it then your not doing anything!

I was this bride - mainly because i'm a control freak. My MOH basically told me to "back the f**k up on the bridal shower and bachelorette party - she's got everything handled" and I did.

So my advice, either take control and let her know you got it covered or let her run with it.

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I suggest just confronting your bride about the whole situation, let her know how you feel and the issues you've been having. Don't worry about coming off rude or anything, if she chose you as her MOH she did it for a reason. You should feel comfortable talking out your problems. I know the pressures of a wedding can cause some stressful situations. I personally had a similar issue. I was planning and organizing my own bachelorette party and bridal shower because my MOH wasn't doing anything. I'm somewhat of a control freak and I couldn't stand the thought of everything falling through because she wasn't doing her part. Eventually my gay bestie/groomsman stepped in and took over. He was kinda pissed at me for planning things that I shouldn't be, but he understood why. I then ended up confronting my MOH about her lack of participation, she explained that she really had no idea what she was supposed to be doing and what her responsibilities are since she's never been a MOH before. After explaining to her what she was supposed to be doing she jumped in and started helping my gay bestie with the rest of the planning. Now, I don't have anything to do with the planning other than some occasional input on my preferences when asked. My point is, sit down with your bride and clear the air. One uncomfortable conversation is better than having tension and animosity between you two throughout the whole process of planning and celebrating. Everyone has their role to play in a wedding and she should let you play yours.

Is this the same bride who had a snit over the *gasp!* wearing of beige to the bridal shower? If so, what do you like about this person? Was she always like this, or is this new behavior?

My bridesmaids didn't communicate with me very well, which led to me being worried about the shower and bachelorette party being planned properly. In the end I just sat back and trusted they would do it, but it wasn't easy. I could have turned in to the bride you are describing. The shower came out beautiful, but I actually ended up needing to step in for the bachelorette plans. But, I did so at the requst of my MOH.