Bride asks Guests to pay her back

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I know, right?! I can't believe her guests paid so much to travel to her wedding and she even expected a gift???? Ugh.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, I would still get them a gift because personally I give gifts as a congratulations to getting married. I know many people see it as a gift for hosting, which works too. Just my personal opinion. But I wouldn’t contribute to their registries probably haha. I want my gift to be something they can enjoy after the wedding, even if it’s just cash. Contributing to their wedding would make me feel like I helped them throw a party that I then didn’t get them a gift for.

View Quoted Comment Your gift is not supposed to have anything to do with the wedding, not paying for it or paying what they spent on it. It is supposed to be a sign of your friendship or love, bigger if you are very close, smaller if not. And something to help them in their future married life. . . . But a couple like this, not too endearing, why would you care about their future? . . .Maybe send a thank you note, saying, thank you for inviting us to the lovely wedding and terrific meal that everyone gave you money to provide? Nice of you to plan it? . . . This rather makes me think of a post circulating here for a while. Someone asking for the polite way to ask a relative to pay for the RD. Then lists of all the things other people are paying for. And people rather puzzled about why she feels entitled to have everyone else pay for her wedding, when she states they are financially well enough off to pay, they just think someone else SHOULD. . . Why?