Bride asks Guests to pay her back

People are crazyyyyy

Omg 🤦🏻‍♀️ We were recently invited to a wedding where the couple had listed listed a “registry” for their vendors and wedding items. “Photographer” “cake” “decorations”...... and I thought THAT was tacky!

View Quoted Comment OMG are you serious?!? That is so crazy!

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No way....

This is tooo much! If you couldn't afford to have an open bar, gift bags, etc. why do it? Some people do things for show and have unrealistic expectations. Ridiculous!

Ridiculous!

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Yep, when I showed it to my mom her mouth just dropped and she was like "I feel like this is one of those things you read about on the internet!" Lol. Makes me not want to give them a gift at all honestly because a gift is supposed to be a "thank you for hosting us" but if I know their other guests paid for their wedding via this registry fund, what am I thanking the couple for...?

Of course I WILL still get them a gift because I'm a nice person hahaha, but it sure will not be a contribution to their decor -.-

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Lol see my previous comment as a response too^

That is crazy! I can't even imagine asking my guests for anything, let alone that!

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OMG WHAT?! That is insane!!!

What is WRONG with people? Are they so entitled they actually think this is ok? I'm stunned. Moral of the story..........if you can't afford to pay for your own destination (or any other kind) wedding, don't have one!! It's so simple it's ridiculous.

Omg. Shocked.

In my opinion a couple should ask for “no gifts” at a DW because guests are paying a lot to attend. It’s important to treat guests to an extra meal or more. Ugh.

If that bride did that to me I would have replied, “Sure, I’m happy to... after you reimburse me for my travels fees to attend your wedding... $2K flight, $1K hotel, $500 travel fees. Please send me a check for $3,500.”

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The message from the bride is uncalled for, but if I were the bride I would also be annoyed but definitely would never pull that move! Plus the friend that was invited should have done better planning because it is somewhat a slap in the face to provide so little of a gift (and I get it before others chime in, that gifts are optional!) I think they’re both in the wrong to be honest.

View Quoted Comment Hahaaa yes!!!! I’d definitely respond like this!!! Crazy!

Where I live it's proper etiquette (at a non-destination wedding) to give a gift that "pays for your plate". So guests will give $100-$150 per person in a card and place it in the card box. People don't give boxed gifts at the wedding, the registry is for the bridal shower.

BUTTTTT this bride in the article is insane. Especially with having a destination wedding. Those cost sooo much for guests to attend, no one should expect much of a gift from their guests with having a destination wedding and no one should ever "bill" a guest!

That is just crazy tacky! I agree with PP if you can't afford to have certain items, than don't. I have always heard that going to the DW is sufficient because it costs the guests enough just to get there. crazy!

I DEFINITELY don't think this is okay, but I saw some additional stuff about this story that did say that the money thing was very customary for her culture. Still not okay & she definitely didn't go about it in the right way but not quiiiiite as crazy as one of us doing it.

View Quoted Comment Why is that so tacky?? Instead of towels or muffin tins the couple simply asked for something that ACTUALLY means something to them. Making their day the best they can! Not every needs a set of coasters. And guess what...you'll see your contribution USED. Not sold in a garage sale 2 years from now. It's a shared experience and the couple registered for it. Instead of saying "can't afford it, don't get married" why not get on board. We all know weddings are expensive and a lot of us are paying for ours without outside help. Instead of a cutlery set they asked for a cake which everyone shares. Instead of luggage they chose photography. Things that made a personal impact and provided a service to everyone. It was their special day. Instead of seeing it as a community coming together and supporting, really supporting a wedding, it's called tacky.

Oh my goodness, that's absolutely nuts. I can't imagine the mindset you would have to be in to think it's acceptable to directly message someone and essentially say "give us more money."

I was friends with a couple some time ago that got engaged. They immediately opened a GoFundMe with a $10,000 goal. I told them that it was kind of ridiculous, you can have a fantastic wedding for way less than that, and you shouldn't expect other people to pay it for you. (We were incredibly close, so I felt comfortable saying all this). I was told that "You shouldn't be judging, it's no different than your GoFundMe!!!" .....Y'know, the GoFundMe we had open when my dad was out of work being treated for Stage IV cancer and needed special nutritional shakes for his feeding tube because his throat was burned from chemo/radiation. 🤦 Sigh. I cut that friendship not too long after, they didn't get pretty much any donations, and they divorced within a year of tying the knot. Glad their friends and family didn't waste $10k on it.