Bride and Groom Exchanging Gifts?

We exchanged gifts. I kinda dropped hints that itd be awesome to have a new perfume cause everytime I smelled it I'd think of my wedding (actually ended up thinking about my HM everytime I smell it cause I used it the whole time lol). I got him some fancy bamboo sunglasses for the HM.


There's no rule that you have to exchange gifts. But if you want to I'd talk about it. You dont want to get him something and he didnt know he should have gotten you something and you feel disappointed and he feels guilty. Communications is key.

View Quoted Comment LB, Thanks and so cute about the perfume! I should have noted that FH and I talked about it and he doesn't think exchanging gifts is important, but I really think this gift is perfect for right before the honeymoon. So I would be giving this gift knowing he likely isn't giving one in return... BUT! Maybe he would feel badly for not giving me a gift in return? Who knows? He may be just fine with it or not care... herein lies the real dilemma I think... 😏

We exchanged gifts the night before. He knew I got him a watch because we picked it out together and he was dying to wear it at the wedding. Exchanging gifts the night before let us have a bit of alone time before the craziness of wedding day.

We are going to write each other letters to read on the morning of the wedding. We may do a small gift, but we both agreed that we would rather have a letter to keep

We are doing small

gifts and letters! I got him cufflinks that have a sweet message in my handwriting! I absolutely love them. I’ll share a pic

Yes we both got each other a few small gifts and a hand written card.

As far as I was concerned, he was getting me, I was getting him, and what more could either of us want?🤗. Exchanging gifts is a some do it, some don't , kind of thing. Not a tradition for most , who get each other a ring in a double ring ceremony. But also, in the 5 months before our wedding, he had a graduation, gift. I had one. We each got the other a gift when we moved in together, for our home. And we each had a birthday. Perhaps, if it had been many months or a year since we gave each other major gifts, it would have seemed more significant. What with hundreds of gifts for showers and the wedding by 2 weeks before, since we are a mostly box gifts, not money kind of family/ area, for us it seemed one more thing to do . If you have something you want to give him, in addition to Christmas or other holiday things, and Valentine's Day, do it. What the rest of us do does not matter. But if you are holding on to something you would give earlier, just because you think you need to have a gift exchange . . . Don't. Parent gifts are not traditional, either, though a nice long letter to them if they help financially ( and framed pics, or an album months later.). If you give them " what a great couple of parents I have" gifts for Mother's Day, Father's Day, their anniversary, and each of their birthdays, enough already. But if you rarely see them at these times, and will see them and enjoy giving gifts in person at wedding time, then do it. Traditional or not does not matter. You feel it, so do it then. Etiquette does not cover anything about gifts given by the couple, or to each other. Only that thank you notes , from you, are necessary for gifts of help or money. And that those who celebrate your wedding give you a gift.

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These are so sweet

I plan to gift my FH with something small on our wedding day, just to let him know I'm thinking of him. I don't care if others think it's outdated b/c it's for him and it's my wedding. I think you should if you want. Plus it coincides with your honeymoon!

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I love this idea. We actually scheduled ourselves a date night the week before the wedding so that we could have some alone time, just the two of us and have our last date as an unmarried couple. It's so cute your guy so excited to wear that watch at your wedding!!

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A letter is such a sweet idea and best of all, it's free! I'm going to suggest this to my guy and see if he might be interested in doing it. Thanks so much for the idea!

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OMGoodness these are so cute! Where did you order them?

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Thanks, LaQuita! I liked the idea of exchanging sweet notes so we'll see what FH thinks about that, but I may keep the other gift after Christmas and give it to him as a surprise. I think he will just be tickled by it, and the laughter it will bring might help him loosen up a little at the wedding, to remind him that it's not so serious.

I honestly have the same thoughts. I bought him a gift but do I give it on the wedding day or sooner? It’s something he needs/could use in general. So torn.

View Quoted Comment I saw those on Etsy and was going to get them for him. And then in a conversation about groomsmen gifts he basically said he wouldn’t wear cufflinks. So there went that idea for me 😔

View Quoted Comment I like the idea of exchanging gifts the night before. Then if you’re not seeing each other the day of, you don’t have to worry about someone doing the gift exchange.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! I love how they came out! I ordered them here:

https://etsy.me/2PVmqnM

View Quoted Comment Aw oh no I’m so sorry. What did you end up with?

View Quoted Comment Thank you 🥰 I think he will love them!

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Thank you!!