Bride and Groom are inviting people to fill in cancelations

Gross. I would never accept a last minute invitation. That's so incredibly rude.

Yeah one mutual friend in particular was sad he wasn't invited when we got our invitation, so I feel like inviting him last minute is even worse

I was invited to a wedding last year, two weeks before the wedding, via Facebook. I did not attend. I went to a tricky tray instead

That's terrible! I wouldn't go either!

Yeesh, uncool. :/

I'd go. If I cared about the couple, because I would understand that weddings cost a lot and if they had an unlimited budget and unlimited space they would undoubtedly invite everyone they ever knew in life. I would also understand that they asked me to come because I was local and could make a last minute decision within days. We were invited to a wedding a couple days before and we went, had a great time, and didn't think anything of it. Because obviously, if they didn't want us to come, they wouldn't have invited us at all ever....

That's B listing and it's offensive to many.

To add a little info, this is also offensive to some people attending the wedding because they were told they could not bring their significant other. One bridesmaid was told she could not have a plus one and at least one guest I know of was told his gf of 1 year was not invited and he flew into town to attend.

I'd understand if their venue had a cap, and so they were unable to invite everyone they may have wanted. If they had some people cancel and could finally invite others that they had to make hard decisions about, I think I would understand.

ETA: Ok, I just read the added info... no, that's not okay. The extra seats should have been given to those others first.

Its not an issue of a cap.

Oh Tamara, they didn't want you to come first time around but once other people who they really wanted declined, you were good enough to go and fill in the seats.

I actually had friends ask me to do this. HaHa!! They just want to come and don't care how they get in. Granted, these are old friends from high school that I barely see or talk to. Guess they just love weddings.

Erin I hear you. I have had old friends tell me they will pay their way to come to my wedding. I will not accept this offer though and tell them I appreciate that they would like to attend but we are having an intimate ceremony.

Erin, I really hope you don't do that. It is so offensive! HaHa!

Who cares if its rude? why not invite some people to enjoy free booze and a nice party instead of wasting money on empty seats that will only make the wedding empty. Not to mention less people usually leads to less fun

Everyone should care about being rude. Being rude to people leads to negative changes in your relationships with people. No one will think as well if you if you are purposefully rude to them, nor should they. Making it clear to guests that they are second best, and that your wedding "vibe" is more important to you than their feelings is disgusting behavior. It has consequences after the wedding.

So they're just offering up empty seats to people they didn't think to invite the first time around, instead of doing the right thing and inviting the other halves of those social units they split up? Tacky and rude. Shame on them.

@Miami2NorthernVA - same here! I have had people actually say that they would pay to attend or are willing to be on the "waiting list" for cancellations. My friends completely understand how expensive weddings can be and they know 70% of my guest list is taken up by family.

I just think it's really how you handle it and what the situation is. Make sure they know they are NOT second best or an alternate, and you really wanted them there.

I was invited the week before a wedding once...and the bride text me the night before to see if I was coming. Um, no thank you.

I agree that it's incredibly rude... on the other hand, if I found myself as a B list guest, I would consider attending if it were an open bar!